I'm dating the nicest guy I've ever met. We've been dating for 6 months, and last week we went on our first vacation, after that, he told me he want us to have dinner with his parents this weekend.
When we are together he always puts me first in consideration about what we are going to have for dinner, what movie to watch, or what music to play. Of course, we make decisions about it together (not just based on what I want, that would be boring). He always initiate s3x, prepares breakfast and cooks everything for me, pays for everything, and takes care of all the cleaning. Every time I try to do it myself, he refuses to let me.
He's always concerned about what I might need. He makes me feel so appreciated and loved, but I struggle to reciprocate in the same way.
I am a kind and sweet girl - he told me that -, and my primary love language is physical touch, so I'm constantly giving him hugs and kisses, which he loves. We are always holding hands.
However, I struggle with doing more acts of service or spending quality time together. He once expressed that he wanted ME to make plans beyond our usual routine, so I bought tickets to a horror theater event (even though I hate it) because he's a big fan of horror shows and we had a good time!
And there is a problem here... I have a few ideas for nice plans to do! But I have NO money to make it happen, and honestly, I have NO idea how to say to him, 'Hey, what if we go here but you pay for it?'
Also, I used to be a woman who sends cute texts or cute love letters, and who used to give sweet and thoughtful gifts. After my heart broke, I felt like I could never be the same... but I miss that! I miss dedicating cute songs to my boyfriend and printing photos of us with nice phrases to give him as gifts.Right now we almost don't use any words of affirmation just the basic "I love you" and "I miss you"
I want to be that girl again, is it too soon to start doing those things again just six months into the relationship? If that's not his primary love language, then does it make sense to start doing it?
dating for 6 months?? sorry but what does that even mean? i don’t waste my energy being cutesy to a man and sending cute texts. that’s teenager stuff. and many guys start out being perfect romeo, then women fall all in love and it’s game over. never get this emotionally attached if he’s just showing one side . he should be actively courting you, and spending money, bringing you along to something he'd already be doing is lazy