Hi Queens. So I have been seeing this potential HVM for about a month and a half. So far he has been very patient with my pace and respectful to my boundaries. He seems like a truly decent human being who is a nice upgrade from all the other scrotes that I’ve met so far since I started dating early this year. He has a nice paying job, lives alone in a neat apartment, speaks highly of his mom and other women in his life, has amazing friends and family, provider mindset, good manners, great communication between dates, just to name a few things. Of course I have brutally vetted him the FDS way. I have a running list of things I’ve observed from him that could potentially become red flags. I’ve made it clear about how I would like to be treated, the pace of the relationship and boundaries with sex. I‘ve never initiated interactions or double texted and matched his energy minus some (sometimes minus a lot). I’ve leaned into my instinct and ask myself all the time if there’s anything that makes me feel even slightly uncomfortable. So far he has come through every time.
These last couple weeks I had gone through some pretty shitty situations (first I got covid then was mugged at gunpoint ugh) and he has offered amazing support to me. asked me if I needed anything everyday and spent time to keep me company even when I didn’t have the mental capacity to be good company.
Then I found myself start getting a little anxious when I wait for him to text me back. My mood gets a little better when I see his text lights up my screen. When I think about him his flaws have started to become kinda cute. I feel like I am definitely starting to get emotionally invested and this is starting to cloud my instinct.
So queens. What have you done before to keep a clear head when you see someone you really like?