If you're new here. You need to read this post.

Here are some text posts I have saved on my Apple Notes from the FDS subreddit. There could've been more, but I didn't save those, unfortunately.

There's some good dating advice here for those who ask about dating on the forum.

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Don’t have penetrative sex with a man unless he can bring you to orgasm with his hands and/or mouth first.

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Something I have had to learn the hard way is that men will never put up with the same shit they put us through. I have stayed with men who consistently disrespected me so long as they “apologized,” only for them to cut me off entirely because of a minor issue on my part. They don’t show us forgiveness, because we aren’t important to them. They don’t value connections with us; they value themselves and their own pleasure. We continue to fall for the idea that forgiveness builds relationships when men are simply not acting from the same place, and this is what allows them to continue to exploit us.

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A “hoe phase” shouldn’t be normalized and i had that pushed on me by pickme classmates in college. She is trying to drag you down to her level.

Higher risk of stds and abuse. Taking a man home you dont know and just think about it- you’re getting naked and often hes atop you where he pretty much overpowers you. Higher risk of him being violent and abusive especially when you’re at your most vulnerable.

Yeast infections, throwing off the ph, etc no thanks.

Hookups are awkward. You don’t even know the guy. How can you even relax and really get into it? At least for me, i can’t actually get wet or orgasm at all when i’m nervous and still feel shy. Tip toeing past his roomates or parents or getting looks from his apartment neighbors when you walk to your car afterwards…. All awkward.

There is nothing to actually gain positively out of hooking up as a woman. Our bodies are hardwired to bond and “catch feels” after sex. All my friends that would hookup would be tripping or crying about how he wouldn’t ever call her back.

It holds up the global resistance. By allowing men to keep using women for low effort sex, it just reinforces to them that they can keep being low effort and keeps them in this objectifying women mindset. If we all stuck together and made them invest into us and make effort then they’d have to step it up or be abstinent.

What is a hookup gonna actually do for you that your own hands/a good sex toy alone won’t do for you? I haven’t met a pickme that actually had an orgasm from a one night stand unless she gave it to herself.

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Men that say they wouldn't

spend a lot of money on a

"complete stranger" for a

first date, are the same men 

that don't mind asking to

exchange bodily fluids with a

"complete stranger" on a first

date!

Make it make sense!

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Always ask yourself: is this person

worth disrupting my vaginal pH for?

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If you catch yourself BEGGING

someone for.. ..human decency? a

response? time together? clarity?

respect? some compassion? some

kindness?

You need to take a step back and

realize that you're begging someone

for the bare minimum. That's ridiculous

and beneath you.

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To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that

they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e.,

women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most

straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people

whom the admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom the

imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom

they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to

learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor,

reverence and love they desire... those are, overwhelmingly,

other men. In their relations with women, what passes for

respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for

honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want

devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.

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sorry but straight men being

polyamorous or into bdsm is probabl

the least radical thing in the world

and i'm inherently suspicious of then

all! for most of history men were

encouraged & sanctioned to both

have more than one partner & to use

violence against women

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How did the most delicate part of

the male body become the most

widely used metaphor for strength

of character whilst the part of a

woman's body which can grow life

and bring it into the world is

synonymous with weakness?

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Here's one feminist life rule of

mine: I never judge a man based

on how he treats women when

they are coddling or praising him.

Look closely at how a man

reacts when a woman

displeases him, stands up to

him, or draws a boundary with

him, and you will find out who

he reallv is.

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no woman is required to "respect" cultural

practices which are inherently degrading

to them or religious beliefs which devalue

them as human beings. we are not required

to adhere to a state of patriarchal reverence

whether we're observing our own society

or others, and we're free to both criticize

and reject any ideology that views female

human beings as innately inferior or born for

subservience.

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