Yes. They thrive in chaos. They egg each other on and hide behind each other.
It's why if you grow up in a dysfunctional situation it takes so long to unpick. Because it's not just your shite mum. It's the fact that every other adult in your life was someone who could tolerate spending time with someone who was a horrible mum.
As a long-time chatter, OMG yes. People tend to want to be around others who are like them anyway, and chat rooms just distill this down even more. People who have a lot of issues come together where they can all excuse each other's shortcomings, and attack others who are different. Narcs together sounds like a complete and total nightmare of dysfunction and fuckery for everyone around them, much like a class 5 hurricane, tornado, tsunami all in one. Steer very clear.
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Oct 25, 2023
Yes, narcs tend to have the same values and get along with each other, as long as they have a non-narc as their shared target. Without a scapegoat to spew their toxicity onto, they will turn against each other. An island of narcs left alone with each other would quickly turn into a bloodbath.
My ex was a bit of a narc and none of his friends were good people. I keep an open mind when meeting people for the first time and try to be as friendly as possible, yet they were always incredibly cold to me. Even their connections with each other seemed incredibly shallow. They were all “best friends” that barely saw or spoke to one another.
Also, I just felt like the friends my ex had that were halfway decent didn’t care about helping him make any positive changes or fixing his life at all. I won’t go into all the details but it would’ve been great if his supposed best friend who he knew for 20+ years even tried to get this guy to take personal responsibility. But nope, that’s what men do. They leave all the damage for women to clean up and then talk about us behind our backs for it. That same friend bragged openly to me about spending thousands on his unemployed GF to buy her designer clothes and bags… yet agreed with my ex that I was entitled for expecting him to buy me a $12 drink when I went out with his friends. 🤡
From what I’ve learned, if a narc has any friends at all… they are probably not great people. They’re either deeply insecure “yes” men or narcissistic bullies.
I don't think so. A Narc wants to be the center of attention at all times. Now imagine having 3-4 narcs in one room, they'd probably attack each other within a few mins. They're really dangerous people.
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Oct 24, 2023
Full blown narcs are rare, but since narc traits are MALE traits, you'll find that most men are unnappealing in that way. The entire reason we live in capitalism, with women and children being held hostage, and most men just being controlled is BECAUSE people with those traits band together with each other. The entire globe is a low-scale petri dish of Wolf of Wall Street, where all dudes want to be the guy at the top. That's why gangs exist.
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Yes. They thrive in chaos. They egg each other on and hide behind each other.
It's why if you grow up in a dysfunctional situation it takes so long to unpick. Because it's not just your shite mum. It's the fact that every other adult in your life was someone who could tolerate spending time with someone who was a horrible mum.
As a long-time chatter, OMG yes. People tend to want to be around others who are like them anyway, and chat rooms just distill this down even more. People who have a lot of issues come together where they can all excuse each other's shortcomings, and attack others who are different. Narcs together sounds like a complete and total nightmare of dysfunction and fuckery for everyone around them, much like a class 5 hurricane, tornado, tsunami all in one. Steer very clear.
Yes, narcs tend to have the same values and get along with each other, as long as they have a non-narc as their shared target. Without a scapegoat to spew their toxicity onto, they will turn against each other. An island of narcs left alone with each other would quickly turn into a bloodbath.
My ex was a bit of a narc and none of his friends were good people. I keep an open mind when meeting people for the first time and try to be as friendly as possible, yet they were always incredibly cold to me. Even their connections with each other seemed incredibly shallow. They were all “best friends” that barely saw or spoke to one another.
Also, I just felt like the friends my ex had that were halfway decent didn’t care about helping him make any positive changes or fixing his life at all. I won’t go into all the details but it would’ve been great if his supposed best friend who he knew for 20+ years even tried to get this guy to take personal responsibility. But nope, that’s what men do. They leave all the damage for women to clean up and then talk about us behind our backs for it. That same friend bragged openly to me about spending thousands on his unemployed GF to buy her designer clothes and bags… yet agreed with my ex that I was entitled for expecting him to buy me a $12 drink when I went out with his friends. 🤡
From what I’ve learned, if a narc has any friends at all… they are probably not great people. They’re either deeply insecure “yes” men or narcissistic bullies.
I don't think so. A Narc wants to be the center of attention at all times. Now imagine having 3-4 narcs in one room, they'd probably attack each other within a few mins. They're really dangerous people.
Full blown narcs are rare, but since narc traits are MALE traits, you'll find that most men are unnappealing in that way. The entire reason we live in capitalism, with women and children being held hostage, and most men just being controlled is BECAUSE people with those traits band together with each other. The entire globe is a low-scale petri dish of Wolf of Wall Street, where all dudes want to be the guy at the top. That's why gangs exist.
Yes. Eg, most doctors and lawyers I know lol