After going out with a 50 year old single dad and figuring out I was safe, only to find out he had a 3 year old (when does it end??) and having to hear about his ex (in a negative way), and a man who is still living under the same roof with his ex “because it’s best for the child” (or are you just broke? and so you’ll be thinking eventually to move in with me?), I had to just set a rule for myself.
I was hoping to get confirmation that ruling out single dads- unless the children are grown (I am of the age where men in my range could easily have children in their early 20s by now)- is not unreasonable. I myself do not have children.
I hesitate to say it because I do not want to disrespect the single moms here, but it’s just too much extra vetting to do. It’s not that I don’t like children- I love children. But what with the visitation arrangements and being expected to step in and be an authority figure/on mom duty for a child that is not mine in any way, and potential bad blood with the ex I have to hear about…it’s too much. At least when the children are no longer minors, it takes out a lot of the hassle. But, I’m not sure if I’m being a jerk.
Also, at the same time, I am sure there are women who won’t date for less than 6 figures, and I certainly don’t make that yet I’m not offended, but I’m not sure if my own standard is something I should keep to myself, when speaking to other moms IRL?