Sometime ago, I made a post about my belief that men cannot and do not want to love women. A personal experience of mine was one of the many reasons why I made the post.
When I was in university, there was a cute guy in my class who I became friendly with when we were put in a group to work on a group assignment. We were friendly but the more time went on, he’d say subtly flirty things to me which made me think he was interested, but because he never asked for my number or tried to progress our friendship into anything more, I didn’t think too much into it because by then, I understood that a guy will make it known that he likes you if he actually does. I just smiled when he would flirt and continued the friendship with him.
About 6 months into my degree, I found out from a mutual friend that this guy had been interested in this other girl on our course for months. The mutual friend told me how the guy had always been interested in the girl and how they were now officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I was really shocked because I had no idea this was happening. I knew that they were friends but had no idea something romantic was brewing between them. It turns out, from what my mutual friend also mentioned, they had been talking for months and clearly, somewhere along the line, things got romantic between them. He was building something with her while flirting with me in class.
In that moment, it reminded me of my thoughts on if men can really be purely interested in just one woman seeing as this guy apparently, liked this girl “so much”, yet that didn’t stop him from flirting with me.
This is an example of what makes me not trust that men can really and actually love a woman the way women can. How can you really like someone while flirting with someone else? Surely if you really liked the person a lot, you wouldn’t be interested in someone else, even in a non-serious, this-is-not-going-anywhere-type of way? Right? What do you all think?
This personal experience and many others I’ve personally had and seen happen to other women are why I have my guard up with men and believe that they can’t or just don’t want to be committed, fully, to just one woman.
What do you all think? Have you had the same or similar experiences?