I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months, everything is going well right now and we really like each other. This summer, he is going to Vegas for a minimum of 2 weeks with a chance of it extending up to 6 weeks. It’s kind of a work trip but is also kind of not - he will break even if he goes and it is more for fun and networking than anything else. He just found out about the potential for it to extend and I’m feeling anxious about it (which I’ve not said to him yet). He hasn’t really extended an invite to me to come out at this point other than saying he hoped I could come for a few days if my schedule allows. In all fairness, my work is super flexible and I could easily come for 2+ weeks but he isn't necessarily aware of that.
2 weeks of him gone is one thing, but over a month makes me uneasy. We have been starting to get more physical lately and I'm thinking of pumping the breaks on that until there is more clarity regarding the trip. I admit I am not secure and do not feel okay waiting back home that long while my boyfriend gallivants around Las Vegas without me. It may be too soon to expect an invite, especially since the dates have not been nailed down yet, but if I don’t receive one I would likely opt out of the relationship. It would drive me crazy and send my anxiety through the roof.
I posted this same question to reddit and basically got people telling me I have serious trust issues etc. Honestly I think it's insane to expect that a man who doesn't invite his gf on a month long vacation to Vegas should be trusted when there's no real reason not to invite me along. I don't want to nag him into inviting me and I'm a little hurt he didn't present it in a way that sounds concerned about how it will affect us. I'm seeing him tonight and any ideas on how to approach this are appreciated.
If you feel unsure and anxious about the relationship, holding off on physical activity is a good idea. You have to protect your heart. Let him ask; if he doesn't ask, then you have your answer.
Would you invite him if the script were flipped? Oh, you would? This man should be chomping at the bit to have a romantic vacation with you and instead nothing. Not gonna end well sis.
I personally would break up with him. The relationship is WAY too new to be fretting about potentially half a month or more of time apart from a guy you barely know. Not to mention he could also be going to PARIS this year? Bah. Let him go, sis. Moving for a man is only an option when you’re married, not when you’re bf/gf and especially not when you’ve only been together a few measly months.
His nonchalance tells you all you need to know. If he was worried about losing you while spending over a month away AND having to go to Europe later on in the year he’d be asking how he can work with you to find solutions. Long distance sucks. But he’s not. Actions >>>
He looks like one those guys who finally gets "relaxed" once they become your BF and start letting themselves go (in the personality department at least). I could be wrong. There's a possibility that he thinks that now he's your BF, it will be harder for you to contest what he's doing. It makes me very angry. ☹️
My best friend lives in Vegas so I go there to visit pretty often. The way men behave there is disgusting! It's like they check out their decency and morals the moment they set their foot on the strip.
He's just not that into you.
Block, delete, move on. He might even be relieved that he doesn't have to take on the burden of cutting off contact.
Honestly..... maybe I'm negative but I would break up with him now. With Two months in, it may hurt to leave but idk, reading this post gave me the impression he is... just not it. Leave before it gets harder emotionally to leave in my opinion.