Over the past year I’ve been letting go of relationships that don’t serve me. I noticed i was the one always giving and not getting much in return or people taking advantage of my kindness. It’s been really tough for me to try and change the types of friendships i engage in. So I’ve been trying to make new friendships with better quality women. A work colleague has invited me over to hers for drinks this weekend which was really nice and was really excited as I’m never invited anywhere. Its usually me that arranges things. She’d even sent me photos of her garden with two hammocks and her new garden lights to enjoy. Thing is…I’ve just noticed she may be another user to take advantage of my kindness. For instance, at work she asked if I could drive her home as her car was broke (I’d just got to work but I did it). She occasionally asks me to do small errands for her (which I do). Yesterday whilst I was in a totally different department and busy working she came to ask for my help with her work (she’s dyslexic. This involved my other colleague to finish my work whilst I helped her). Also, she lives quite far from me so I’m having to travel there and back which in turn is me doing all the work. She’s said she sees something in me that shows we could get along. Maybe it’s me overthinking but maybe she sees me as a benefit to her needs. Now I’ve noticed these things it’s making me feel in refusing her offer. Even writing this I am seeing this as old habits and patterns emerging. Ones I don’t want to repeat. Should I give her the benefit of the doubt or just cancel? Just wondering on your thoughts and how to deal with this?