ok he already text me after an hour I posted this lol if they wanted they would (even if such a silly mesage)
We had a date last night, and he was so sweet with me - as usual. He told me he missed me because we hadn't hung out for 4 days, lol. Everything is going fine; we had our first vacation and met my in-laws last week. He usually initiates contact, but today he just sent me a meme on Instagram (we do this every day). However, today he didn't send me a WhatsApp message asking, "Hi, how did you sleep? How was your day?" like he does every day. And lately, I've been reading a lot about how 'he is supposed to like you way much more than I do' and that true love is for our family and girlfriends. It stuck with me. I read that men don't tend to love in a romantic way AS MUCH AS WE DO. And I'm a woman who 'loves too much.'
Today,I feel like sending him a message, and I wanted to know your opinions. He is doing everything well, but I know I already show and share way more affection than him. This is the first time in 6 months that I'm giving us ""some space"" - because it's 7pm and we didn't talk. I've also read a lot about 'Let Him Miss You.' I think we are constantly in touch in one way or another, so I think it would be nice not to send him a message and let him 'miss me' a little more. I know this might be overthinking, but I'm a newbie, and I want to do things better this time. Sorry for my english
"we had our first vacation and met my in-laws"
If you and this man are not married, his parents are NOT your in-laws.
I think this statement says everything about your relationship with him. You are entirely too invested in a relationship that he sounds like he doesn't really care about. Already, he's breadcrumbing you, doing the bare minimum to keep you around. Is this the kind of relationship/marriage you want?
I'm going to be blunt. He sounds like he doesn't give a shit about you, and before you waste more precious months/years with him, you need to cut your losses, block and delete, and move on with your life.
If you don't believe me, by all means, stay in your situationship. Let us know how it goes in 6 months or a year. I'll bet money things will not have improved by then.
Edit: I apologize for sounding harsh. It sounds like you had a fun time on vacation. But I stand by my original point that if you feel like he’s pulling away, he probably is, and it won’t get better. I’ve felt this way in relationships before, and it never got better.
I find it perplexing that him not texting you made you think all kinds of things you posted here. Does he not make you feel secure in the relationship? It's a man's job to prove his love and make you feel secure. Is texting, gifs and sending memes his only means of communication when he doesn't see you?
Personally, texting, saying I miss you, and sending memes are cheap. It's passable if you were teenagers, but as adults phone calls should be the minimum. I have dated LVMs and they prefer phone calls to texts and made effort to see me. Don't put so much importance in his words, watch what he does.
Romantic is subjective and you're entitled to get the kind of romance you want from your partner. Don't settle or make excuses. Men can be romantic if they want to be.
My dad didn't say I love you often, but as a handy guy he made all kinds of things that my mom need but didn't know she needed. Even after his passing, there are a bunch of stuff he made that my mom still use. He wasn't a touchy feely guy, but he always held my mom's hand whenever they cross the street. He was romantic that way and that was the way my mom likes it.
My advice will be to focus on your life and start doing things to keep your mind off of this. You are too invested emotionally and he isn’t. Take a step back and live your life. The right man will step up for you and prove to you everyday that he wants
In-laws are you too married if not it’s really problematic you thinking this way . Please read the handbook
I add more info: He don't tend to use lovely words such as "I miss you" "i love you" by text nor in person. He does tent to sent cute gifs or reels saying things like "Good night my lover I love you" "good morning my beautiful girlfriend" He is 28M and I'm 27F
You seem to be agonizing over a very simple, mundane thing, meanwhile he probably has no idea there's a problem. I think you're reading too much into this. Do you want to be with him? Because if something this simple has you running to FDS for answers then maybe your heart just isn't in it.