-using my car and never buying his own despite being in a well paid job. To his credit he did fill up the tank inbetween uses
-staying at mine four times a week and paying for groceries only, some of which he got totally wrong. He did a fair bit of DIY. He had a home of his own which was... not somewhere I liked to be
-asking me to help with everything; from what job he should do next to decorating his house to doing errands for him
-refused to buy a washing machine at his place (because bills) and balked when I refused to do his laundry on top of my own
When I got rid of him there was some amusement on my part when months later I received a letter addressed to him at my home address. This is despite him insisting he didn't live with me. See my point about 4 nights a week...
I’m doing the work to figure out WTF I let this happen in the first place, reading the FDS handbook and ensuring this character is out of my life. But it's scary to see how widespread this issue appears to be and how many women are conditioned to give give give without considering whether it suits THEM and whether there is any dignity or joy in this set up.
In my case the ex could be very generous with gifts and trips and torally charming in other respects but when the piss taking is laid bare it makes for difficult reading.
From looking at female forums in the UK, what horrifies me is that there appears to be a tendency for cocklodgers to start relationships with single mothers in particular and reap the benefits that comes with their lifestyle. My stomach turns at the thought of some dusty scrote leeching off a single parent without making any meaningful contribution to her material lifestyle. My how my eyes have opened.
I have a pickme friend in her fifties currently consoling her MARRIED lover over his latest family drama. I'm having to keep my lips tightly shut incase I say anything too stinging. Even married scrotes use the women in their lives as a refuge and people allow it. It makes me fucking rage, frankly.
Do you have your own cocklodger tales? When did you realise? What have you done since…