Question for you ladies: How do you deal with tempering a fiery, unbridled attraction to a man for reasons you can't quite pinpoint? Where does this "x-factor" attraction come from, and for those who have experienced it, and especially those who have experienced it very rarely, how do you deal with moving on from it after a relationship doesn't work out? How do you move on from the loss of something so rare?Background: I saw my ex at the gym today after almost 4 months of no contact. (Well, he's been trying to get my attention over email, but I ignore him) And it was just a glimpse, just a half-second glimpse of the side of his face, and it felt like someone had poured a love potion down my throat, just like it was when I first met him 7 years ago (we were distant acquaintances for years before our 2 year situationship). All those years ago, I instantly had a crush on him within 5 minutes of meeting him despite being engaged at the time. I literally felt drunk for a few minutes after just glancing at him. But I quickly hurried out of the gym... thanks to what FDS has taught me-- otherwise, I would have probably tried to talk to him.
But that sort of thing does not happen to me. I do not get crushes, and I do not experience instant attraction. As one gal on here said, I think most men are kind of unattractive and look like thumbs. It takes me awhile to fall for someone through emotional connection and getting to know them.I guess I'm worried that it will never happen like it did with him again. It's just so strong. I wish I knew why and where it came from, so at least I could rationalize it and explain it away in my mind. But as it is, I know I'll just be ruminating on it all night and hold that half-second glimpse of him in my mind for weeks now. It sucks and it hurts. He is, in reality, such a disgusting person. I just wish I could forget about him and move on. 😭😭😭