This is gonna sound brutal but FUCK traumatized men who don’t get help.

The book why does he do that explains that they just use mental health as an excuse to make people confused and control them

Half the time they've never been traumatized a day in their life. Its just a get out of jail free buzzword for them.

For example, my 40yr old incel coworker "logically explained" to me that the reason why he is creepy with 18yr olds (he was desperately trying to triangulate like 5 of us) is because he was socially awkward in highschool and a girl made fun of his forehead one time...

men have all of those shiny healthcare benefits, they need to use them for something besides Viagra and Testosterone Replacement Therapy.

The same guy that unloaded all his trauma on me, 2 years later contacted me again acting like he was brand new man, new job, new money (he had NOT been to any therapy mentioned). I was doing pretty shitty in my life. I asked him for a chanel bag, dog food and material stuff- he stopped talking to me and called me weird. I am NOT a dumping ground for man's trauma. I am so thankful for myself and glad I never had sex with him. I ran for the literal HILLS on this one. I already have a narcissistic mom, I don't need a n-bf.

Same with my older LVM brother. He kept getting hurt mysteriously or doing random acts to try and get sympathy from me. I cut him off. My mom got mad at me saying "I never know when I'll need my brothers help". He has never helped me substantially without me regretting needing his help, I have always been the one helping him or him calling me for absurd favors.

Lol. I dated a guy who would always talk about his horrible childhood. Why was it so horrible? He couldn't remember! So it must have been REALLY bad! 😂 He'd go around talking about the book "A Child Called It" and would say, "My childhood was like that... but worse." Ummm... if you don't remember, then how do you know it was worse? He'd say horrible emotionally abusive things to me, but if I did so much as raise my voice, he'd freak out because he was having flashbacks from when he was 5 years old. What did he see? He couldn't say... it was a feeling... something awful. I finally got to the point where I just told him "I don't like you. Like, I genuinely dislike you as a human being." And I broke up with him. This traumatized him further, and he sent me several text messages about how his counselor said I'm a bad person. LOL. Traumatized men can eff right off. I've been through plenty of trauma and dealt with it. I've got no time for theirs.

I've rarely seen traumatized women use their trauma as an excuse to abuse people. But for some reason society can't hold men to the same standards. I no longer feel empathy for men, they created this patriarchy that traumatizes them and does much worse to women. So I 💯 agree with you.

Men seem to have a vendetta against women's mental health. That's why I can't stand them.

They're so spiteful. Their delusions lead them to believe that women are somehow less lonely in the world or that everyone is concerned about our mental health. It's like they truly believe clinically depressed women are out there being cared for like babies.

“If he wanted to, he would” (Save His Own Mental Health Remix)

But seriously: never again. Ever.

No thanks, I'll pass on fucking traumatized men who refuse to get help

Jkjk, I get the sentiment: I'm all for encouraging these men to ssssssssssuspend their lives and give me some ✌️

nope, i agree because they belong in hell. therapy isn't a new thing.

Scrotes would never do the same for you. Had an argument with an idiot that insisted the main character of Midsommar was “trauma dumping” on her boyfriend “and boo boo poor him!” I just thought, “trauma dumping?” for expecting support from her BF of 3 years because she suffers an intense tragic loss?

They telegraph their true selves daily. Trauma dumping. That’s how they see it. Ironic that they co-opted the very terminology used to protect against their behaviour and twisted it in such an ugly way.

This is one of the most sane realization I’ve read. It’s a logical conclusion to mens socialized thinking that all thier mental problems are society’s fault and not thier own responsibility to deal with. It’s not brutal, it’s a strategic logical conclusion. Carry this energy into any man that doesn’t take accountability for thier mental health behavior.

Ugh I just went through this. He wanted to date but needed to discuss his “baggage and trauma” which he’s not in therapy for beforehand. Then he changed his mind due to his “hang ups due to baggage and trauma.” I had no agency and there was not a single acknowledgement from him that, guess what, I have my OWN baggage and trauma too! The difference is I’ve been working on it for years with a professional and I’m emotionally stable enough to date and not jerk people around.

He’s been sending me paragraphs the last few days asking to meet up for “closure.” Why?! So I can find out about his baggage? After he put me through this emotional whiplash? It’s so self serving and delusional to think that someone you romantically rejected would be somehow helped by you additionally unloading your emotional baggage on them. He’s left on read.

Don’t do it ladies 😅

I recently dated an old friend from high school. I knew he had a crush on me for YEARS, but we were never single at the same time. Well, finally in November we were so he messaged me and he slowly revealed over the next 10 weeks he was traumatized from a really bad breakup. But he assured me he was in therapy (incident happened over a year before) and he seemed fine till he just went cold the last 2 weeks we dated. I confronted him, he asked me to give him a chance to change.

One week later, he ices me out and we break up. He explained it was because of the “trauma”, denied leading me on, and begged to again “have what we always had” (the prior friendship)

I thought about it, and I realized: That friendship was basically us checking up on each other once a year, liking each other’s social media posts, and him drooling all over my pictures. This guy, who is out on a pedestal for 20 FÛCKIN YEARS was using me as, frankly, a talking decorative object to make him feel good about himself.

If he was too traumatized to date, why did he date me to begin with, then lead me on for 2 months?I know the answer, and .....no more free puśšy subscriptions from me. I swear im close to sewing that shit up.