I'm a recovering forever girlfriend (broke up with a cheating scrote after 9 years in Jan). I moved out and into my mom's place to save money, and I am in the process of planning to move in with two friends (married couple) who have a large house in another state.
Since even before my breakup, they have been wanting to pair me up with a friend of theirs. They have very strict parameters of who they allow in their circle and historically have very high value people in their lives, so overall I trust their judgment as a good tier 1 level strategy.
On paper their friend has good baseline stats. He's an engineer and works a high paying job, owns a house, works out and recently stopped drinking. He's in therapy and has similar goals and values as me. I have met him before at group events and do enjoy his company, though we haven't spent a lot of time together because we currently live far apart.
The issue is I know they have talked about my failing / failed relationship with him, which is something I would not have wanted to reveal. I'm also sure they have talked him about wanting to pair us up likely as much as they have spoken to me about it which makes it a little awkward. They mean well, of course, but this does put a huge dent on potential vetting because this guy has a little insight into my relationship.
What are your thoughts? I'm leaning towards trying to get to know him and vet anyway, cause a HVM would not use that against me so either he is or he isn't but of course scrotes in sheeps clothing can use these things as manipulation tactic.