What Gives You the “ick” When It Comes to Men?

If he’s a “dom”, listens to Milo or Jordan Peterson, interrupts, immediately trauma dumps when you confide in him about your trauma, long toe nails 🤮 victim complex

Bad dental care. Smokers. I can't stand a guy who doesn't get regular dental cleanings, and smells like an ashtray. Poor nutrition, (after all, you are what you eat), lack of general self care..both internal self care and external.

Men who are overly eager about sex really turn me off. Always after it, acting like they can’t live without it. Or the ones who believe that it’s as important as food. Shit is so unattractive.

Self proclaimed Chad or nice guy. A Chad knows what he is and doesn’t have to say it out loud because actions speak louder than words. Men who claim they are a good honest people are usually the exact opposite. Unless someone asks him to describe himself directly watch out for these losers.

Have.Bad.Skin, ungroomed brows and facial hair, rough hands that we know damn well they ain't doing anything about it. I always put a lot of effort in creating a good impression and when some mf pulled up in sweaty hoodies, unibrows, unmoisturized and unwashed hands, patchy facial hair, frizzy or greasy hair, dried up pimples and face skin that they washed with 29 in 1 soap and smelling like sweat, cumin, ketchup and hotdog water...I just go home at this point

Being overly familiar when we barely know each other. Assuming I'm interested in him when I'm just being polite. Being sleazy/skeevy and making inappropriate jokes or derogatory, objectifying comments about other women. Doesn't actually listen to what I'm saying and just smiles and nods. Like, you obviously don't care at all about me as a person so wtf are you even bothering to talk to me in the first place?

Community dick. Men who are lazy, unkempt or just look generally slovenly. Just, no. Make yourself physically presentable, fix your hygiene and fix your life before you try to talk to women. Whining about an ex. Go to therapy, geez.

Grown men who live with their mommies.

I am not even talking about 25, I'm talking as old as 50-something! I recently met a man in his 50s, who bragged that he looked in his 40s...um, no, he didn't and I let him know. He was sad simply because I hit him with the reality that he actually looks his age. Boo-hoo. Salty scrote tears. I also said how I don't understand men saying these things in their OLD profiles when their pictures are there for us to see/decide for ourselves. (I've actually seen this repeatedly. "I'm 45 but look in my 30s" with their pictures right there, testifying against them. 🤣)

Anyway, his excuse was that he was building a house and couldn't afford to rent a place and build a new home....COVID hiked the prices of building materials sky-high, he didn't plan for this great an expense, blah-blah-scrotery-blah. Huge turn-off. Get a second job, bro! Hell, get a roommate--one whose name is not Mama. I mean, of AAAAAALLLLL the people you could live with...

And, of course, she cooks and does his laundry! (Even though he protests....Um, sure he does.)

It's a turn-off when guys don't live on their own, in general. I met another guy whom I also disqualified because he was "staying with a buddy" while he, too, was building a house.

WOW, it must be the Year of Building Homes You Can't Afford To Build. Such coincidence!

Suddenly I'm wondering if this is a man tactic, something they're being coached to say...

Dating for Dudes Part 3: Lies to Cover Your Sorry Penniless Ass

Lie # 25: I'm building a home and staying with________ meantime.

This lie serves double-duty, fellas:

First, it provides a palatable excuse as to why you don't have your own place. Second, it gives the illusion that you're a financially stable, reliable, mature man who not only owns a home, but builds one. You're the great provider women are looking for! (Except you're not. But, your dick will be inside her before she ever realizes it. If things progress, you can always take her by the building site of a random house under construction and pretend it's yours. Congratulations, fellas!)

Men who talk dirty to me. It’s not hot. It childish and very cliche, and makes them look like an idiot.

1. ask to be friends once I reject them (Or after a breakup) or still has an ex or crush as a friend. Why?

2. asks me any interview-like questions when I first talk to them. You’re supposed to be auditioning for me, impressing me. I don’t need to tell you what I would change about myself and why or anything else that feels like that

3. mentions any financial struggles.

4. mentions their ex in any way.

5. mentions any trauma or deep insecurity about himself early on.

6. if we get to kissing At all, they assume that means I want sex

6. if it gets that far-when they assume I want to be fingered. That does absolutely nothing for me, feels horrible to me, and is not hygienic. Also gross to assume kissing someone or touching them means I owe them sexual activity. Also very gross to violate someone by putting anything in any hole of theirs without asking permission first.

7. has anything negative to say about condoms for any sexual activity. i jump back and ask them if they are crazy. He Probably already has diseases with that attitude. 8. says he was abused in any way or has any kind of what about men thing. like ”men can be raped too” ”men can be abused too”

9. “I’m a nerd”

10. says “wow are you ok?” or just a “wow” after me expressing an opinion on a sensitive topic that has been brought up, especially one involving inequity towards women.

Anything that implies I am being dramatic when I either am not being very dramatic at all, or where, as a person affected by the topic, I have every right to be ruffled by it(this one is especially important. the crap people will make you feel terrible and like you’re being a drama queen for sharing your opinion. it is made to shut you down)

For me, it's men who don't pronounce words properly and get defensive when you correct them. It really puts me off. They come across as unintelligent and uncultured.

I've seen guys argue that a word is pronounced the way they say it, while being totally incorrect. For example, my friend's boyfriend pronounces "accept" as "assept". She told him he was wrong and he got defensive and said he was saying it right. It irritates me when they mispronounce words and don't listen to others who pronounce the word the right way. I'm left wondering if they're deaf and can't hear that they're saying the word wrong.

Men who don't clean up after themselves. It translates to the perception of them appearing lazy and entitled because they think someone else will do it for them. On a deeper level, it's unhealthy to not care for one's surroundings enough to want to appear, I don't know...clean.

boring men.

Nothing gives me the ick more than when a man uses that high-pitched, whiny baby voice (occasionally coupled with a little pout ew) in an attempt to guilt trip you. Also men who ask your opinion on an issue just so they can spew a self-congratulatory monologue about their own opinion.

Men in their late 20s+ who date college students.🤡

Guys who have low self-esteem, low ambition, overt or covert misogynists, guys who watch porn, who have slept around or are ok to use women for sex, men who can’t manage their money, who are emotionally immature.

Ended up being a list 🤣

Guys who are dumb. My last ex boyfriend didn't understand what hail was. That and a few other things. And every man I know makes it a point to go on and on and mansplain whatever they can with me despite the fact that I'm typically much smarter than they are.

It's the assessment if I'm fuckable or not. You're walking by some stranger, checking out in the grocery store, waiting with your cat at the vet, and there's this assessment sequence. First is gaze at my face to see if I look "good enough," then it's fixation on my chest to see if my breasts meet his "approval," then back up to the face to see if I'm just dying to fuck him.

All from a total stranger, could be some pimply teenager to a loser dude with his pants falling down to some clown in a black Porsche. As if.

Porn addict scrotes who rely on man-made BS of women being 'nAtUrAlly sUbMisSiVe'

Men who think that every woman wants to give them an orgasm. Dude, reality isn't a 3-D porn site...get a handle on something other than your own penis!

If a man mentions anything about about the relevance of dick size for sex. The first that comes to my mind is "He has a small dick, is horrible in bed and blames it on women". Instant turn off that can't be recovered.

Guys who reduce women to their body parts.

My brother is the worst when it comes to this. For him, the only thing that matters is the chest size of girls. Here's an example:

"Hey, remember X from fifth grade? She was super smart, and so nice to everyone. I saw on instagram that she just got her masters in engineering."

"Ah, yes, I remeber, she also had the biggest boobs in class."

And he does this with every.single.girl.he.knows. Except for me, luckily.

I snapped eventually and asked him If every girl he has encountered in his life is just a walking pair of boobs. My mom unfortunately defended him by saying "That's just how 14 year old boys are". Newsflash, he's not 14, he's 27, yet still acts like a teenager.

And unfortunately, he's not the only guy I know who behaves like that. A woman could come up with an universal cure for cancer, and men would probably still talk about how much of a rack she does/doesn't have.

Guys who are totally obsessed with sports but claim to be straight. It just seems odd that they happily spend hours just staring at muscular men.

It may seem weird for all of you, but for me it's worshipping Elon Musk.

On a more superficial level,

Almost any guy who uses minoxidil

Guys who think pissing me off is hilarious then act surprised when I snap. You mess with the bull you get the horns. I will note that once I lash out they stop, so far.