There is no point where the oppressed group is oppressed "enough."
During slavery, arguments like "they're better off slaves than free blacks," were made, and even if that's true, like a married woman without her name or own property is "better off," she's probably still actually not.
Most men were comfortable with women not driving, having bank accounts, making family decisions, and basically being treated like a giant baby in the 50's. (The 50's weren't traditional, btw, anymore than the decades before.)
When push comes to shove, if we were all literally in chains, very few men would have the rational mind to think it's objectively wrong - ESPECIALLY if that's "how they were raised."
Men and society, and especially marriage is just animals jumping through the same hoops.
Very few husbands even will look at their wife and think "autonomous person" before thinking "extension of me who I love," or, more likely, "porn prop who made me marry her."
We are looking for love in stupid places.