I see these types of posts a lot on *popular internet sites* & hear it from men in real life. Its really hard not to engage when the forever girlfriends are the hardest defenders of their shitty men.
Unfortunately I've been there, I have to constantly remind myself that longevity is not synonymous with a good relationship. It's taken me a little over 5 years to get over a 4 year relationship I had when I was 18. I kept trying to find the same patterns in men & it got me back into the same abusive cycles. I also have to constantly remind myself that drama is not romantic or sexy.