I think the advice in this video could be helpful as a supplement to FDS principles. However, I don't think simplifying the partner search to five main personality traits is helpful for women.
Woman have to face many land mines while dating. Many men are not looking for long-term partnership and commitment. However, they will pretend that they are.
The YouTuber mentions that people who are higher on the trait of 'openness to new experiences' tend to cheat more often. Of course, because she needs to appeal to her male YouTube audience and pickmes, she doesn't mention that men cheat more than women.
Even if a man has the personality traits that you're looking for, he could be attracted to young girls, addicted to anime/videogames/porn, into violent 'kinks' in the bedroom, incapable of basic adulting, weaponized incompetence, etc.
Many woman giving dating advice on the internet assume that men have the same mindset and motivations that they themselves have, but that is clearly not true beyond some overlapping desires. Her theory of five main personality traits is helpful in a utopia where both people are engaging in good faith.
Also I don't like her proposal to cut down the number of expectations we have for traits in our partner. I look at a high divorce rate and I see people that should have vetted their partners more thoroughly rather than just focusing on a few traits.
I agree! It's a little bothersome in all of the secure relationship type forums or more positive theraputic approaches to dating and communication in a relationship, where it's ASSUMED that both parties are willing and open to creating a lasting fulfilling relationship. Uhh, no. Far too many men are just completely broken in the brain and don't give a flying fuck, their only real connection to their partner is possessiveness, an ego boost, or control and domination. Men are unable to even understand and deal with their own feelings let alone anyone elses. They usually believe that their subjective experiences or reactions to triggers are based on universal laws or objective truths, instead of their own broken brains reactions based on harmful and destructive subconscious beliefs our culture carefully nurtures and coddles and perpetuates. Like how the fuck does that give us anything to work with? I'd say like maybe 1/4 of all men are capable of having an actual dialog with their partners, where they listen and empathize. Most men are INCAPABLE of empathizing or perspective taking, especially with women. Ex: they don't understand why SA is so bad, because they're so desperate for sex, and sex to them is typically with non threatening women with very little risk to their personal safety or sanity. Surely the average man is safe and reasonable, right? 😵💫