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WARNING: These are HANDBOOK POSTS -- WRITTEN A LONG TIME AGO by some great women with great thoughts and deemed as handbook worthy by FDS mods for a reason. If you feel triggered or disagree with something -- THE SMART THING TO DO IS TO MOVE ON. Agree to disagree and go on your merry way. Stop trying to start bullsh*t in the comment section because I have no patience to deal with you.
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Aaaaaand another one in my series on Sex Advice Scammers: Matthew Hussey. Matthew has been featured in Cosmo Mag, The Bachelor, Single Wives, etc - as a media "Dating expert".
Background
First of all, who the fuck is this clown? No one knows. He just fancies himself a life coach because he said so and he's british. He started as a coach for men on typical "alpha male" coaching content and realized scamming women was much more lucrative before switching over to women's dating advice in 2008.
He started out his foray into women's dating coaching trying to dispense "Redpill" type advice, directed at women...calling women who are minding their own business "Bitches" for not smiling at strangers. You heard that right, his advice to women was "smile more" and not to be "bitches".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOOviZlSNNc
And that if a man pays for you, he should be able to expect sex whenever he wants otherwise its "double standards":
https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/6p750w/who_pays_on_a_first_date_matthew_hussey_get_the/
Here he is flipping his shit on a woman who revealed that she sent a letter to the wife of the man who was pretending he was single while dating her. The advice and his emotional reaction was so toxic even his fans are calling him out:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiYv7M-pJ3g
So it's basically redpill crap coming out of a smoothtalking british guy, who can make his toxic advice sound palatable to impressionable american women, who think british accent = class.
And of course, as he became a more smooth and polished salesmen, he started dispensing your standard "get your ex back in 8 easy steps!!" content, complete with manipulative sales tactics and false leads.
This video does a good job of breaking down his sleazy car salesman tactics:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9IngvQOsSQ&t=425s
Credit Card Continuity Billing Scams
And what happens when you purchase one of his courses or books? Turns out you get charged for a bunch of other things you didn't order!
https://www.scampulse.com/matthew-hussey-reviews
https://twitter.com/MissMeMatty/status/1140482111159373825
These extra charges have been "accidentally" happening for years, at least as far back as 2012.
He claims to have a customer care team to take care of this, but this has been a continuous problem in his 8+ years of operation, detailed here:
https://pr-ay-the-gay-away.tumblr.com/post/183228046538/proof-of-matthew-hussey-stealing-money-from
In Feburary 2019, Matt suddenly stopped responding to any customer complaints/inquiries on stolen funds after being repeatedly confronted by pissed off buyers, who were being sent circular directions to "PM his team" while his PMs were actually turned off:
So much so that a man with a similar name to Matthew, named "Matt Hussey" was getting overwhelmed with requests for refunds on his twitter account, and he publicly requested on twitter that Matthew Hussey the scam artist take care of it in May 2019.
For the unaware, a "Continuity Billing Scam" is a common and basic bottom barrel trash scam artist tactic; one that relies on the fact that a high percentage of people don't check their statements in detail every month.
https://www.foxbusiness.com/features/continuity-billing-scams-cause-continuous-credit-card-pain
I say he skimmed thousands to be conservative, but given the volume of his platform, it's most likely in the millions, or at least hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Mysterious Dating History and Cheating Accusations
And what about Matt's personal life? For a man who is so devoted to "helping" women find relationships - how is his own track history with women? He's been in the dating sphere for over a decade and information is sparse, already a massive red flag, because who trusts a dating coach who no women can personally vouch for?
To date, the only woman who he has ever publicly dated is Camila Cabello from Fifth Harmony - thought to be a PR relationship by her fans. Matt is older than Camilla by 10 years (huge red flag).
A dutch singer named Elieve claims she was dating Matthew at the same time Camila was, which he didn't tell her. She found out things were over via the tabloid pictures of him and Camila in Mexico, which she reveals in an interview on her instagram:
https://www.j-14.com/posts/matthew-husseys-ex-says-he-dated-her-camila-cabello-at-the-same-time/
So basically, this man has made an entire career in women's media despite having zero known dating history, running a credit card scam, regurgitated RedPill crap, and having questionable dealings with the one woman he has been seen publicly dating. A grift.
The handbook posts project.
I used to subscribe to his YouTube channel until I continously saw the nonsense he was spewing. Teaching women how to be pickmes by telling women it's OK to chase men, posting videos that teach women that they can make a man want them; e.f. "What to text a guy to make him want you badly" and minimising men's bad behaviour - e.g. a woman complains about being ghosted after having a good date with a guy and Matthew will say that he may have been intimidated and that women need to essentially...not be intimidating.
All that crap he spewed made me drop his content like a hot potato, ASAP.
He's not anyone women should take seriously, listen to or spend their money on.
Probably not even a real guy—just another actWHORE in the media scamming folks. Notice his last name is “Hussey?” Just a coincidence that an “alpha“ male dating coach just happens to have a derogatory slang word for a female slut as his last name? Just a coincidence that he’s dating other actors? Hardly. They don’t believe anything they’re saying and are just trying to make money off of women or men who are desperate for love.
Wow the comments below the video in this link https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/6p750w/who_pays_on_a_first_date_matthew_hussey_get_the/ were pretty dispicable. Okay first of all, if a guy wants a prostitute, he can go and pay for one (the sex industry is fucked up but that's a whole other beast of a topic). You don't seriously treat the woman you are trying to court like one, but that's what they do when they're all like: "Since I paid for your meal, you have to have sex with me."
If men are so logical, how do they not see this? Oh wait, they do, but they need to keep justifying their actions to avoid feeling like the shit human beings that they are.
And shout out to that one redditor in the comments who stated that if a woman doesn't offer to pay, make her pay anyways and tell her that she's not worth your time. He made a comment in another post about abortion saying that abortion is okay because it's murder, and that sometimes murder is okay. Wow, sounds like a Chris Watts in the making; i hope he does us a favor and keeps rejecting us all.
Actually it is way more profitable to scam men however... I suspect some of these coaches also do it to build a harem of women around them and get access to women they would have never had access to otherwise.
As a Brit I can confirm that all British men are classy. Every last one.
The one video I liked from him was the number one cure for your broken heart. I had become a total shell of myself when i was heartbroken 5 years ago, (it wasn’t just a romantic heartbreak, but friendship, church and other abuse all at once from the same people). The depression led me to quitting my job, becoming home bound, broke and crying everyday. I watched that video from him, and it inspired me to just try new things, have new experiences and go out there and achieve things that would help me progress in life (i studied 2 different things in the last 5 years, got certificates and diplomas). I am really thankful to him for that one video that helped me. But i also never subscribed to him or listened to any of his other vids, because of the exact things listed in this post, i could see his advice was exactly the kind of behaviour i already had that led me to my push over self becoming heartbroken in the first place. I had no healthy boundaries. Im glad i never found his videos earlier than that and only the heart broken one when i needed it, because it may have been a really bad influence on me if i had come across his other content while living like that and being influenced to carry on like that.
In the end he is just another scrote. But im still thankful for that one vid that helped me the most when i needed it.
This guy is a terrible influence, especially his advice to make the first move on guys and ask them out
Ladies dont do it, it never works and puts you in a position to be taken advantage of
I remember watching some of his videos when I was younger. Since I was so inexperienced, I didn't think much about him until seeing this handbook post. He has slivers of good advice sprinkled in his videos (Like if a guy is a dry texter, doesn't seem interested, move on) between the not-so-good (see above) so you're not questioning it.
Unfortunately, he's attractive, so I wonder how many women fall for his tactics due to the Halo Effect.
He is a very talented actor. Could have fooled me. I'm glad to have seen the videos in the links. What a POS.
Omg I thought his podcasts were interesting but I didn't know anything about him 😔