This happens to me a lot with these friendships I have where we will hit it off in the beginning and get along great. As time goes on though, she'll start criticizing me for the smallest things. This most recent friendship, she keeps making all these assumptions about me, she criticizes certain lifestyle choices I have, she acts like I can't do anything on my own, blames me for lack of communication even though she could easily just reach out to me for whatever she needs (she doesn't), she'll rush off to do things before me without telling me then subtly put me down for being "slow." I like her a lot, but these things have really been getting under my skin. I enjoy her company otherwise, but I have been getting irritated with some of this behaviour so I pushed back; but she keeps doing it.
She has some deep insecurities she's told me about (which I empathize with) but I have always qualified her really positive characteristics: she's outgoing and easily charms everyone she meets (qualities I wish I had) and she has business smarts. She keeps suspecting that I'm not being honest about her "flaws", even though I don't see the point in criticizing her flaws even if she was right about them? I am positive about her but she constsntly criticises me and it honestly makes me upset.
I posted this to the pickme subsection mainly because I don't believe constant criticism is HVW behavior. I just don't see why you would do this unless you were jealous or resentful of another woman. In general, I'm just neutral about everyone and don't think about criticizing anybody that much unless that was the case