Glamour Mag: If He Wanted To, He Would Is "Horrible Advice"

I can't. I just can't. "You may miss out on the rich and rewarding experience of being with someone who is neurotic! I can’t believe I’m saying this, but men with low self-esteem are people too." ROFL I'm glad I'm missing out. Get some fucking therapy!

Yup, once again women are in the wrong. Can’t you see he’s a fixer-upper? Take the lead and give him a chance. Here you go, have some more emotional labor to burden yourself with. Drive yourself to distraction wondering what’s going on with him. Waste your time and trash your confidence. Not like you have anything better to do with your life. So what if he treats you like garbage? Trust me, you DO NOT want to regret missing out on this quality relationship! /s

This sounds like a pick-me article. Men with low self esteem should get some therapy.

I hope this article just turns more women on to FDS. All publicity is good.

Disgusting i couldn't read past "women waiting to be picked" they preach women making the first move. Men look down on you if you make the first move. They hate you if you emasculate them. Honestly I'm gonna have to say its flat out dangerous advice.

5 years ago I had a dude from tinder call me non stop screaming at me and threatening me. His reason? I kissed him first. That's his job. I said to him "but you like it?" He said "yeah" and then kept threatening me.

What set him off over the phone? I texted him something small talky like "I'm tired." He responds with "look im not looking for anything serious" (as if I said anything remotely deep or personal lmao)

So i responded with "I'm not either lmao"

And that's it. That's what set him off. I didn't want a relationship. He wanted me to want a relationship. He wanted to feel like he was getting one over on me. I was using him for sex just like he was using me. Men don't like being used for sex. They want to feel like they are coercing you. They want rape.

So yes ladies pursue men so that they can literally kill you because you hurt their fragile fee fees. 🙄

This reeks of libfem logic.

I will never date a mentally ill man. A man with no job, no home, no friends, no perspective. I will not date a man that is shorter than me and fat and I will not date a man that has a record or a history of DV.

I am not a bigot, a -phobe, or an evil witch woman. (well, I am an evil witch woman but that's not the problem here).

these are my boundaries and no amount of libfemming and woo-woo cries will change them.

I am dying on this hill and any man who does not meet all the criteria can just FO.

Of course this is mindless Drabble, they sourced reddit.

"The ostensible purpose here is to “help” women save time and energy in dating, which it does by way of making them feel both undesirable and stupid." and "What comes across is: That man doesn’t want you. Get it through your head. If you keep trying to make something happen with him and he keeps treating you badly, that’s on you. Now you’re not only undesirable, you’re also stupid."

Let's gaslight women with standards, why dont we?

WTF is this? If you try to make something happen over and over again, that is literally on you. Anybody with critical thinking skills can see through that.

"But I’m sorry—some of you have never dated an introvert before, and it shows! Some of you have never romanced a person with a beautiful heart and a debilitating anxiety disorder."

The fuck?

Even people with anxiety try, especially if you've already made your interest known.

"“If he wanted to, he would” paints women as generally desperate, which is interesting because if we’re dealing in generalizations, straight men are the most desperate people in society."

This whole article missed the entire point - the saying isn't about women, it's literally about men. Men will always make an effort for a woman they want unless they have serious issues to work through, and women should not be dating those men because then they'll end up a project.

What a load

Lilith, you do you sis. As someone who’s an introvert with social anxiety, I wouldn’t date someone who’s too neurotic to function. And I relate to Savannah, if I dated another introvert I would be cooped up all day with them. There’s a reason I like outgoing, passionate types, they compliment me.

I’ve spent my whole life working on myself, doing the work to function and thrive despite the challenges that come with anxiety, so why would I want to date someone who can’t get their act together? Do you know the meaning of a romantic relationship? It’s complete entitlement.

I have friends who have it worse mentally and emotionally than I do, and I’ve felt neglected by them, personally and in our friendship. With me pulling most of the weight. It’s exhausting and I’m finally realizing how to set boundaries with my therapist.

I can't stand when they try to correlate shyness, introversion and anxiety to low effort and dont give a shit attitude.

My grandfather was a shy, introverted man and yet he still put effort and approached first to my grandmother. As a shy man, it took him courage to approach her. Grandma noticed him before, he would look at her but was shy at first to approach and yet he did, because he really did like her.

Treated her lovingly until the very end, his introverted personality or shyness did not stop him from loving her.

So what the hell? How can these pickmes conclude that low effort is same as anxiety and shyness? They overdose themselves on copium and try to make other women into copium addicts too, it is so annoying.

As a woman that has had two serious and long-term relationships with a socially awkward intellect, and an aspergerish workaholic (both pursued btw), the saying still stands "if he wants to, he will."

Anything to be the 'cool girl' that shrinks herself for a scrote.

Fun story: that man who has "debilitating anxiety" and is "introverted" and all of those other excuses? Will get some pep in his fucking step when he finds the woman that he wants to be with.

If it's one thing that men aren't, it's subtle.

The only thing she got right was "straight men are the most desperate"

She’s on Twitter. May write to her 🤬

The author comes across as so angry! And If a man wants you he will show you particularly in the early dating stages. If a man wants you long term he will continually show up for you lol. Yes there can be some roadblocks but generally speaking it is how it works!