If you meet someone and they have no friends, I can understand why you might see that as a red or yellow flag. But if this person does have like 2 friends but they're only people from high school or something who lived in the same hometown as them, do you think that's a red flag? Like they moved to a different city, went to college, and started working but didn't add anyone new to their circle.
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If you were to ask me in my early 20s, I would said "NOOOOOOOO! Having friends only from childhood is a sign of loyalty!"
Now that I'm 30, I agree... it could be a red flag depending on the quality of the friendship.
Most of my childhood friends were awful, insecure pick-mes. The worst ones find opportunities to put you down. The best ones, while decent and ocassionally sweet, were void of chemistry. We hung out for old times sake, not because we enjoyed each other's company.
I was deeply terrified of putting myself out there to meet new people. As @Nahhh bruh puts it, I had poor boundaries and was socially stunted. Recipe for a disastrous friendship. It took me a while to get over my fear and work on my giving in tendencies for my social life to improve.
Even if our childhood friends are great people, we should ideally be meeting new people. It doesn't hurt to diversify your social portfolio IMO, as long as you keep vetting of course!