I've just seen a post where a couple of users have stated their desire to leave FDS or not use it as much. I'm very sorry to read this. Like you all, I joined FDS on Reddit and came to this platform because it was relieving to find a community that saw things the way I did about men and society on a whole.
I am aware of particular users who post a lot of things that we'd probably all consider irrelevant and I have seen many discussions descend into arguments and users insulting one another. That's not what FDS is about. It's about us talking about our experiences with men and giving each other strategies on levelling up and decentering men. Of course, levelling up doesn't mean that wanting a relationship with a guy is out of the question but rather it's knowing that having a relationship is the cherry on top of an already great life.
I ask that we use this platform for what it was intended for. I also ask that we refrain from insulting one another when we disagree. We can disagree and be gracious to one another. That is what mature adults do. Thirdly, I ask that we please make posts that are FDS-aligned. This platform isn't a personal diary where users post one thing after another, incessantly.
I've also seen some posts and comments from users that I suspect are men. I will be on the look out for such users who will be banned. This is a woman-only space. Also, any user who disrespects the use of this platform and the users on it, will be warned. If such behaviour repeats itself, the user will be banned.
If anyone has any questions, issues they wish to raise or suggestions on what can be done to improve user experience, please send me a message. I am going to be in touch with other mods to see how we can revamp the platform and make it what it once was.
Thank you.
I'm an old school FDS user - contributed to the handbook. My recollection was there was initially a ban on talking about trans topics because the discussions overwhelmed similar subreddits. And somewhere along the way (while we were still on reddit) this got misinterpreted by TERFs etc and we've become a safe harbour for them. Now this feels like a TERF forum rather than a dating forum or even just a women centred forum and rapidly sliding down a right-wing rabbit hole including increasing homophobia and racism, culture war bullshitlike propaganda about what's going on in Palestine, or the weird celeb drama social media algorithms, mainstream media and incels try to confuse and overwhelm us with. People come here with agendas and take advantage of the nuance that underpins original FDS to try and push them.
It's like the infamous line about when a nazi turns up at a bar and you don't kick them out:
"And then THEY bring friends and the friends bring friends and they stop being cool and then you realize, oh shit, this is a Nazi bar now. And it's too late because they're entrenched and if you try to kick them out, they cause a PROBLEM. So you have to shut them down."