His girlfriend.... I only know she's his wife because my dad told me. Seems like he hasn't told any one else that he legally got married already. Just makes me wonder about their dynamic and if she's okay. I'm happy for her that she gets to stay in the country and I get that my bro was doing her a favor helping her stay, after years of dating.
I hear she cooks him dinner every night too which is nice, but it makes me question if she's happy with this "secret" marriage. I do get why people marry for papers and I'm not judging them. So idk why I'm feeling off put. Maybe it's because I can imagine my brother receiving wife treatment, but maybe he doesn't treat her like his wife yet considering he tells me she's his gf.
my family is Vietnamese and his wife is too, she just didn't have permanent residence in the us until she married my brother on paper.
I can see things going very bad for her if this marriage feels more serious to her than him.
I understand it's their business and I wouldn't interfere. I guess I just want fellow FDS thoughts.
i think you should mind your business. people marry for papers all the time, most pay for it so she is fortunate to have had someone that she actually knows and has had a relationship with already. you don't know what their agreement is and if he/they are not open about it....they may not intend to stay married forever. and that's their business.
helping her not get send back where she came from (if that's not what she wanted or was unsafe for her) is the least he could do if she was already his girlfriend for a while and he didn't already decide to marry her till death.