Just go ahead and do it. You have my permission. For anything at any time, for all of time. Not that you needed it (or anyone elses, whether online or in real life). You're welcome.
Now that's out of the way-
I really would like to STOP seeing all these posts of fellow Queens asking if they were somehow "wrong" or for feeling a certain way or "turned off" about anything. I want to remind you that YOUR feelings are YOUR feelings, and they are fucking valid and do not need to be explained or justified to anyone. Hell- even yourself. That's what our intuition is for, it tells us things that our brain perhaps can't fully comprehened the reasoning of, or at least not in that moment. I want to all this self-doubt to stop NOW. No one has the right to say that you were "wrong for feeling a certain way". I mean this as a general sense in regard to anything (work, friends, family etc.), but it's especially imperative in reference to a scrote or something he did- just nothing at all.
He made a sexual joke that made you uncomfortable as fuck? #BlockAndDelete
He negged you? Or maybe you weren't *really* sure but are still turned off? #BlockAndDelete
You saw his insta follows are full of thirst traps? #BlockAndDelete
He showed a sign that he maybe might possibly be porn sick? But you're not 100% sure? #BlockAndDelete PS: he 100% is
He wanted to go "50/50"?: #BlockAndDelete
He did pay but it felt awkward because he initially hesitated before getting out his wallet, because he wanted to check and see if you're a 50/50 chick? #BlockAndDelete
He initiated sex before you made it clear you were ready? #BlockAndDelete Also, No man would risk making a girl they truly liked even 1% uncomfortable esp. with sex
He pulled out a coupon on a date? #BlockAndDelete
He took you on a shitty "date"? Or even asked for a walk/coffee? #BlockAndDelete
Maybe he even took you on an awesome date- but you're still just not feeling it. Cool! #BlockAndDelete You don't like the way his nose crunches when he speaks? #BlockAndDelete
He did something else shitty? or nothing "bad" at all, but you just don't fucking like him? #BlockAndDelete
In that case, no questions need to be asked, which is the intended purpose and beauty of it in the first place.
The main purpose and beauty of it being that it is intended to eliminate any need for any explaination. The only person whose validation you need is your OWN.
I also wanted to add that dumb as scrotes may seem, they ultimately are fully aware of their actions. If you are not sure if he is really likes you? He doesn't.
If you feel he's stopped putting in effort, and his interest is wavering? It's because it is, and you should #BlockAndDelete.
And even if he didn't do ANYTHING wrong, is showing you in lots of effort and interest, but YOUR interest has wavered? Well... It is still time to just... #BlockAndDelete.
I would like to also remind you that as a woman, are in inherently in a state of constant physical risk just by being in the vicinity of a man. Men who by the way, and you must never forget- are ultimately our natural biological predators. Most women who are murdered are so by their sexual/romantic partner.
I know that sounds extreme when you may have simply for instance, realized you actually just kinda hate the way he laughs, or chews, or something else that arguably may seem petty in the grand scheme (however still VALID). But the simple fact remains that the less interaction you have with a man, ever, in any circumstance- the safer you ultimately remain. My point being why does he deserve your presence, time or attention if you don't even fully and wholeheartedly like him? or even just THAT much?
It's imperative to also rememeber that the man who you're feeling iffy about for ANY reason or even no reason at all? If not to just keep you as a side piece/back up- he would 100% drop you as well if/when he met someone he liked better. And the only reason I add in the last part is because we are all well aware that men will even marry women who they hate if they alternative is having no one at all.
That's it.
Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
I agree 100%. You save yourself so much trauma if you follow your instincts and block at the first red flag/"ick" That "ick" you feel, is your gut instinct telling you to run and you should listen. Your gut instinct is primal. It's something we developed to protect us in the wild. Ignoring that gut instinct has never once ended well for me.