Yesterday I found out that I made the right call cutting off a male "friend" a few years ago. I was newly into FDS when this guy reappeared into my life, as he was on the brink of divorce. It quickly became apparent he was looking for more than friendship and didn't see me as a person. I cut him off.
A mutual friend (my gay friend) met him yesterday in a professional capacity and learned he just got re-married a week ago. Yet he tells me the guy is still in love with me and was checking out every waitress in the bar. As in, head swivelling and looking. Then chatting up the 20 year old waitress. My friend was mortified to be sitting with him. Oh, and he's drinking again. He was sober when I knew him.
This guy didn't care who he was married to, he just wants to be married. He can't be alone. He kept quizzing my friend about being single and how he can do it. My friend has been single for 5 years and he's really happy. He said it was clear the newly married guy couldn't imagine a life where he was alone. My friend said it was so obvious he didn't care about his one-week old marriage. But he's got 2 kids, so he's locked in the pack mule.
Thanks to FDS I was able to spot the red flags and ditch him. And after hearing this update, I'm glad I never reached out to patch things up. Ick.