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How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriate
I've seen quite a few comments on this sub where women flat out tell a man that they don't do coffee dates and they expect to be taken out to dinner. I think there is a better way to do this that maintains your dignity and that also help vet the man.
On occasions where I've had men suggest a low effort date. I have two go to responses:
"Thank you for the invitation, but that is not the type of date I'm accustomed to."
"Never mind, if it's too much trouble for you to plan an appropriate date, perhaps we're not a good match."
Nine times out of ten the man will step up right away and do the right thing. If they don't you have your answer.
I also feel a date should be in line with the age and income level of the man. I have dated wealthy professional men as well as blue collar guys. I expect them to plan and pay for a date proportionate their income level. If I know they are making an effort I am happy.
I hope this doesn't offend, but in my opinion flat out asking to be taken to dinner is a bit tacky. I think there are better and more dignified ways to let men know our expectations.
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