[Posted by @SayNad on FDS Reddit. Reminder for us to keep focused on our levelling up.]
Imagine yourself in a high rise building, and all these men are on basement level. While you are already on level 50, moving higher day by day.
You both are already on a different level, different league. You can't burden yourself with their foolishness.
You simply can't waste your precious time debating these men and wasting your energy getting angry and frustrated about their shitty-ness. Shitty men stay shitty and when you give them you attention, they will do all they might in pulling you down to their shitty level.
I understand you want to rant sometimes, letting off fumes when you have to deal with them in the wild. And want to commiserate with fellow sufferers.
But when that rant and complaints becoming a regular activities - do realize that you just spend a significant hours in your day (that you can't get back) talking about them, and spend even more significant mental energy thinking about them, and exhaust yourself getting angry and emotional over them.
How many more hours, days, months, years should you continue like this? In the end you still, in a roundabout way, focusing on men non-stop.
Instead of the men being around to torment you - you are tormenting yourself.
Ladies, do let off fumes when needed. But be very mindful not to fall to into the pit of misery. Yes, you should be angry once you realize just how f\*\*ked up our reality actually is - but never let that anger and resentment consume you. Take it from someone who still struggle with it. It is a fire, ladies. And it can burn you from within - to the point of no return.
Anger is a WEAPON. Only use it when necessary - do not allow it to control you.
You are busy. You have wounds to heal, skills to master, knowledge to learn. Becoming a HVW is hard work it is not a kumbaya chant you spew around open fire and magic it into reality. You have to do actual hard, difficult, uncomfortable work. You have decades of brainwashing to fight, "logic" and "common sense" that in reality are means to oppress women to unlearn, concepts and theories to wrap your brain around.
You don't have time to deal with insignificant drama. They want to continue their chaos and drama and whatever else - let them be. That's all they know about, your "education" is just noise to them.
So let their shitty drama and tomfoolery be noise to you too.
Stop entertaining them. Cut them off in a instant. Stop responding to their stupid DMs. Block and delete. Get up and leave. Just walk away.
When you keep sitting down and giving them even more of your time, just to have something to complain about later - you are starting a habit. And not a good one.