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A beautiful young man or woman, with all the promise in the world, at the prime of their lives. They got a great body, they're wicked smart and pulling perfect grades, they're at the height of the popularity pole from whichever educational institution they are a part of, they are the king or queen of the world. Nothing could stop them and everybody wants them.
Now imagine that same person on their knees, snot flowing from their noses as they're bawling their eyes out, begging and pleading you to please give them a chance, please go out with them, please don't leave them, or them just acting completely ridiculous JUST to impress you. Pretending to like the same things you like to make you think about them. Acting extra sexual just to get your attention. Loudly proclaiming that they are NOT like other guys or other girls, and they're actually cool because they're so different. Behaving so insecurely despite all the evidence pointing to the fact that they're desired just for their very mere existence, confounding you to no limit.
You felt that? That little ick?
That's the same feeling men feel when a woman, no matter how drop dead gorgeous she is, makes the first move. In his mind he's thinking, "Okay. What is wrong with this woman that she felt the need to chase after me, an average man, when she could have sat in the middle of the shopping mall and everybody would fight tooth and nail just to get her phone number?"
In his mind, it doesn't make sense, until it dawns on him that maybe there is something wrong with this woman that she's not attracting action in other men to come get her. So why should he respect her? Why should he commit to her? Why should he treat her kindly and with love? If other men can't see it, neither will he, and he will remind you of this every day for the rest of your life.
Let me be blunt. Men hate women who make the first move. I'm serious. If you could only hear the way these men talk about the girlfriends and the wives they have, of whom they did not made the first move because she did it herself, the vitriol and the disgust they have over these women... I promise you, it would nearly traumatize you to never make the first move on another man ever again. All those losers you hear that they would prefer it if a woman made a move on them? They will instantly regret it when it finally happens to them irl.
They always want the woman that they work hard for to get. Never forget this.
I don't care if you have to spend years from now, single as hell, because now you know better than to make the first move. You only need to attract one man into your life, to become the love of your life, maybe the husband you've always dreamed of if marriage is on your wish list, and a father should children be something you desire in the future. That's it. Just ONE man. You don't have to attract or try to keep a bunch of men, because really, who has the time or the need for all of that drama? Not me, and certainly not you, queen. 👑