advice from the Coffy Salon - if you want to marry, “don’t be a married woman, be a woman who happens to be married instead”

Inspired by my last post where I discussed a woman who gave up her vibrant career to support her husband, a post recommendation: (https://thecoffysalon.substack.com/p/dont-become-a-married-woman Note: there is a paywall for the last half of the article, though)

Don’t be a married woman -> don’t shape your entire life and identity around your husband

Be a woman who happens to be married instead -> have your own life and identity, and if someone comes along and you want a relationship/marriage, ie. for stability, and the arrangement benefits you, it’s an addition to your life, not the focus

The Coffy Salon generally seems very FDS-aligned, although I do find some of her stances and wording a bit harsh