Melanie Hamlett has made an important video about the way men sabotage women's lives. It's close to 10 minutes, but it is worth watching all the way to the end.
It's a reminder to all of us that, when given the chance, men will use us, drain us, and derail us. They will steal our ideas, our energy, and our time. They will snuff out our light. They will demand so much of us that we have nothing left to give to our creative pursuits.
How many women's dreams have been destroyed by men? How many female writers, artists, musicians, etc did we miss out on because they met a man who sucked them dry?
It's happened to me, and I know it's happened to all of us on this forum. Men are not worth it. Ever. The most radical thing we can do is decenter them from our lives and live for ourselves.
Melanie is also on Tik Tok. She makes excellent videos.
I've always known that men do that, When a woman's career or dream gets ruined a man's career rises. Men build their success on women, men prey on women's maternal intentions, Men leech off and rob women of what makes them a human with rights.
Early retirements in the bloom of a woman's career are usually because of men. Like with the actress Halle Bailey, in the bloom of her career the man she is with baby trapped her, he admitted that he feels insecure about her success. And that's not some men, it's all men. They want to coddle the myth that men have and will always achieve more than women.
This is one of the reasons I tell men from the start that I'm not helping them with anything, do you everything alone and if you can't do it alone then that's too bad, I'm not giving an inch.
I refuse to help men, you can't help your way into a happy marriage by making sacrifices for them but you can help your way into getting replaced by a gold digger in the long run.
It doesn't matter what you do, If men want to leave they will leave no matter what.
So the best thing you can do is not make sacrifices for them, don't help them and don't write yourself out of your own life story to make him the maincharacter of your life.
Never ever let your dream go to build his because when they leave they will feel no regret when they tell you that they owe you nothing.
If a man leaves because you're not doing what he wants such as work less or not work at all to build him then be happy because he has planned to leave anyway after his goal is met.
Men stay with you for convenience, not for love and women need to get that through their head.
completely agree with her! men are leeches who suck the life out of us.
Every woman in the world needs to watch that and listen CLOSELY. I can't stress enough how destructive men are, and those that genuinely want the best for you are like unicorns. Only get into a relationship if you are ready to throw all your dreams and ambitions away, because that's what will most likely happen.
Mel Hamlett is amazing, and I'm learning a lot from her. The only two points I disagree with her on are hookups and open relationships. She says she enjoys hookups and recommends opening up the marriage if she can't be satisfied in the marriage anymore. One woman spoke out against hookups, and she criticized it by saying, 'Women in their 20s don't know how to guide men to give women pleasure; that's why you don't enjoy hookups. Now that I'm in my 40s, I know how to make requests, so hookups are really fun.'
I'm learning a lot from her aside from those two points.
Thank you for sharing! I love her 😍