So, I got caught up in the excitement of having met a very successful coworker of a friend, and that coworker of his is recruiting for that company. I would like to speak to him more, but I am not ready- due to some medical issues- to immediately jump into setting up interviews.
As recruiters do (it’s been a while, and I’d forgotten), he’s being quite persistent, with the most recent one being going off email and on to texting me, urging me to apply for numerous jobs at his company. I find job apps to be very mentally draining (not sending the resume, but the tailoring of each one and the custom cover letter) and need to have time to set aside. I know he’s going to be riding me on this. I don’t like that he texted me at 8PM, when I am still working, saying he was ready to speak to me when I had already communicated that I would not be available to speak until Friday.
I know I have a history of allowing my boundaries to be violated in professional settings. I know this means I must honestly assess what I can mentally manage, no matter what anyone thinks of it, create a boundary, communicate it, and stick with it, even when others attempt to get me to change it.…which salespeople are notorious for. If I don’t respect the boundary, why would they? And it sets a precedent that I don’t actually mean what I say.
I value romances less, and so sticking to boundaries has been not too bad. But I value financial advancement immensely, and so even with my resentment of sales pressure, I still feel that worry and ick when I set a boundary, and it is ignored, and then I don’t respond (what more is there to say? I already communicated what I am able to do in a certain time frame). Does anyone else get that feeling of feeling like you’re going to lose something valuable, even though intellectually you know you are doing the right thing by sticking to your limits? What do you do to make it go away and firm up an iron will?