Oneof the main reasons I joined and stuck with FDS is the focus on decentring men and levelling up as a person. I've learned so much over the years from other women on here so I thought I'd try giving some of that back to the community!
I know someone did a post like this before but it was mainly dating related. It got me thinking, what are the things women on here would tell their younger selves that were career-related, or about levelling up/self-improvement in general?
Here's my own list -
•Perseverance is essential - in terms of applying for better jobs and also going for promotions. Complacency can be the difference between a fulfilling, well paid career that stimulates you intellectually and a monotonous, badly paid job that overworks you.
•Thinking about the colour of my outfits more. When I was younger, I pretty much threw on whatever. I didn't really think about the colours and whether they clashed or whether they suited my complexion. Finding out more about which colours suit me has really helped with looking professional and how I'm perceived by other people. A good trick is to only wear a couple of items in the same bright colour, with everything else in the same neutral shade.
•During my degree - to start seriously applying for jobs early, before I left uni. Because I didn't, I went through an awkward limbo of being unemployed after graduating, while applying like mad and feeling like I was wasting valuable time.
•Two words - period pants! Honestly, they've really helped me to go from dreading my period every month to actually accepting it.
•Adopting a genuine good skincare regime, as opposed to overusing make up.
•Always maintain your personal hobbies! It can be tempting when you're busy with work or study to drop your hobbies if you don't have time for them but this will be damaging for your mental health im general. Make extra time for your hobbies, even if it's just clearing a weekend or having a few days off for them.
•Planning and preparing meals in advance. This is great for healthy eating as it reduces snacking and potentially binging on junk food when you're hungry and have nothing else to eat quickly. It also savesa lot of money. I cook everything in one go over the weekend and stack it up in my fridge for easy access over the week in packed lunches etc.
Post anything you think fits the general idea and hopefully we can make a good levelling up resource!
- Men have nothing to offer you, don't bother with them
- Corporate is more abusive than most toxic relationships, don't gaslight yourself. It's them, not you
- Stick with a uniform that isn't trendy and be intentional with home decor
- Learn to recognize and read your own intuition
- You've gotta network to get work. Grades and fancy resumes don't matter, it's allllll about who you know
- Stop your period using the pill or go permanent with an ablation
- Find a make up look that suits you (if you wear it, you don't have to) and stick with it
- Try new things
- Learn to dine alone. It's a personal game changer
- Learn to cook and how to make it fun for yourself
- Older guys don't deserve the ego boost from dating you
- Walk away sooner
- Work on your self-esteem
- Develop self-awareness
*Edits I forgot to include:
- always save money and have enough to look after yourself
- never tell a man how much money you have saved or make