What should I wear on my second date?

So, I’m going on a second date with this guy I’ve been seeing for 2weeks this weekend.

He knows I play tennis, so he booked us a court. We’re going to eat at this restaurant I want to try out. It’s like a bar/fried chicken joint. It’s full of young people.

I have a few contending outfits to wear.

For tennis:

I plan on wearing my nulu top from lululemon in white and my tennis skirt.

I have a black sports dress that’s like bodycon/lbd/cami. I might wear this and put on an oversized cardigan afterwards for dinner.

I have another outfit for after dinner:

I have a black nulu top from lululemon that I might wear with my Levi’s high rise jean shorts, and white sneakers.

I have a cute sundress that I could wear, and I’ll dress feminine again.

Idk what I should wear, and I want to look good.

FDS, please do not give me advice along the lines of “you look good in whatever” like, ofc I do! But I’m confused as to whether I should go casual and sexy (black top with shorts), cute soft girl (black dress with cardigan), or like I did last time with a sundress.

On our first date, I wore the most cutest and sexiest sundress I found in my closet. A reason why I don’t want to wear another sundress is because I wore another particular sundress with another guy and it gives me bad memories because the guy tried to kiss me. Lol

Update:

FDS, I guess you’re right. I still like this guy. I will try not to get attached. I will match his effort and wear what I want.

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erythrura

Jul 19

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Well... I don't really think tennis and fried chicken is second date material but if you really, truly enjoy it...

What worries me is that you are obsessing over clothes this much even though it's just a second date. It sounds like limerence to me, so be careful that you are not getting overly attached already.

Regarding the outfit: Stop obsessing over "looking sexy". It's sports and fried chicken, not a 5-star-restaurant. Wear whatever is most comfortable for you to play tennis in (even if it a t-shirt and sweatpants) and then change into something casual (like jeans and a top) for the chicken. Match his energy.

Glistening Nebula

Jul 18

Imagine getting all dolled up, sprinkle your finest perfume, getting hair and make-up done, and only meeting up for fried chicken at a fast-food restaurant..

No No No match his energy. Just arrive in sweatpants, he doesn't deserve you at your best if he won't give you the best.

Gudetama

Jul 18

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Why even go with him. Take yourself to a good place.

Glistening Nebula

Jul 21

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Correct, I like walks, coffee at a cafe, visit a fast food restaurant occasionally, sighting seeing but not with a dude. That’s activities I do alone.

FlameThrower

Jul 20

Playing tennis isn't a date! That's exercise, not a romantic date.... I saw this, OP, and it made me think of this post. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DLpzq-xO_vK/?igsh=eHhvdjliOTl1Z2Q1

I'd get rid of this one.

FlameThrower

Jul 21

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I have a whole post in my notes app about guys who take everything as a pissing match and why to avoid them!

FlameThrower

Jul 21

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I agree so hard on this. The pack mule thing is so real and they're the type who will always see you as a "buddy" or he's testing to see if you are a "cool girl" who he can do recreational stuff with and never have to invest in. He should be trying to impress you early on if his feelings are real. How is playing tennis with a scrote impressive??? Unless it's at one of those crazy nice resorts with a steam room and hottub and super fancy restaurant... even then... that is still recreation!

Even if you are further along... the good guys I've dated would never consider us exercising together a date. Sometimes we would go to the gym or pool together to exercise, but we also had, ya know... actual dates.

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luxurylover

Jul 25

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Thank you for saying this. When “exercising with strangers” became a date idea is something I still wonder. Why would I want to sweat and work out with a complete stranger? That’s something you do with a partner of many months/years.