There's a scrote, who I know from profesional environment. We know each other for 10+ years so really long. He has always been very valuable as a bussiness connection. Initially we have met during a advanced design training, he was giving it and I was a student, we really clicked and stayed in touch for all these years. When I say stayed in touch it means we occasionally send a linkedin message, asking each other how is it going profesionally, sometimes we saw each other at industry events and let's say once a year we made appointment to have a lunch/dinner.
I know he is married and has kids and he was always speaking very respectfuly of his wife and generally I never got a vibe that he wants anything more from me than a good, professional relationship.
Fast forward to this week, he said his company is organizing a teambuilding for their emplyees in my town and if I want, we can grab a coffee and catch up, at my convinience. I agreed to see him this morning intially for breakfast at the hotel he was staying because he wanted to leave early to be with his family (admireable). Imagine this, last night he texted me that I can come over to hotel because he has a large bed and would be shame to not use it. I dropped the phone in shock because of that. Can you believe?
I am going to sound a tad dramatic but I lost hope finding a true HVM. This one seemed like someone who has his shit together, has good life, doesn't cheat on his wife. Turns out - scrote as any other. And I know him for 10+ years.
I personally don't believe in the existence of a high value man. The only thing worthy of my time and effort is building myself up, if I ever want children there's artificial insemination.