I don't know why this is. I don't know if it was always like that. I don't know if there are exceptions to this rule. But as it stands in this day and age, thr average man cannot get it up without some aspect of degrading women.
It's why they love leaked nudes and ai porn when they have no shortage of onlyfans ladies, camgirls, and porn stars who are out here literally getting paid to consensually indulge all their sick ass fantasies. The violation is quite literally the point. There is quite literally zero sexual element without the woman being humiliated and disrespected in some way.
Heck even Gay men's sexuality is fundamentally centered around disrespecting women. So many of them are obsessed with sleeping with married men in heterosexual relationships and "stealing" them from their wives or girlfriend's. One of the most popular categories of gay porn involves one of the guys cheating on a female spouse. It's like they literally can't even express sexual desire towards another man without the added fantasy of him disrespecting his female spouse.
Ok rant over.
I've been thinking about this a lot and I disagree. Fundamentally, no, boys aren't inherently homoerotic and misogynistic. I know for a fact that most boys are sweethearts and are born gentle, kind beings. I've babysat boys and it isn't until they start to hit puberty that their socialization starts to warp and detroy them. My own little cousins have happily warded off most toxic ideologies because their parents genuinely love them. Also, they don't have internet in their homes.
It has come to my attention recently that boys stop being shown platonic and familial affection as soon as 7-9 years old. And I went around asking men if that was true and they said yeah. Their mothers don't hug them, their fathers don't tell them they love them, and the closest platonic touch they'll get is rough housing with their friends. That's why by the time they hit puberty they're now sex hungry psychopaths because the ONLY time they get gentle, warm touches is when they're in a relationship with a woman. They have had ZERO coaching on how to create, strengthen, and maintain healthy platonic and familial relationships. So what happens? The carelessness of the parents leads the boys to the internet where they find radical content, porn, and fall into the incel psychopath trash can. Porn, which has a homoerotic push, and the incel shit that infects the sad, lonely boys of the intermet then shape them into the young men we see today. These have absolutely warped young boys sexuality into an abusive, toxic, hateful thing. Like, the homoerotic nature of porn is on purpose. Anal and oral sex are well known to be gay acts. Only MEN get off sucking dicks and being fucked in the ass. They're BUILT for it. Meanwhile, women aren't. We get throat cancer from bjs and anal tears bc our bodies aren't built to have anything put up our ass. We have vaginas, that's where the penis is meant to go.
But yeah. I think it's also socialization. Mostly I see it in my cousins who've been raised right and the fact the older men in my family are also completely horrified and taken aback by all the rape and death threats I recieved on my social media and in real life. My dad and uncle have had to step in MULTIPLE time to push aggressive men away from me, and the overly sexualized way men have approached me and spoken to me is jarring for the older men in my family. They can't believe it. They thought I was being dramatic until they saw it first hand. Same with the older women in my family, too, like there were abusive men but it was a few. The fact I'd get HUNDREDS of violent, hateful messages on my socials (I've since deleted them) and sent to me on dating apps literally made my grandma and mom cry. This behavior isn't new, abusive men have always existed, but it's never been so exposed before and the true brunt of it is harrowing to normal, healthy, sane people.