Ladies, I just need to vent quickly because men have literally no shame. NO shame.
I went to an event today and met a former coworker of my dad (who passed away 3 years ago) there by chance. The coworker is a man in his early 50s - so around 20 years older than me - and I have pretty much known him since I was a little girl visiting my dad's office. I also distinctly remember he got married to another coworker at some point in my childhood because my mom and dad went to the wedding.
So I haven't seen that man since my dad's funeral and he asked how I was doing, how my life was going, how my mom and sister were doing etc. and I thought it was just harmless, friendly smalltalk. And then he asks me if I would like to have dinner together some time. I am kind of confused and ask him why, thinking he must obviously mean dinner with me, my sister and mother to catch up or something ...which would still be weird because he wasn't a close friend of the family or anything.
But no. He meant dinner with "just the two of us". I'm kind of grossed out and in shock and ask about his wife. He tells me they separated years ago but this meeting must be fate because "he had always liked me, even back then when I came to visit my dad's office"🤢. My dad retired when I was an older teenager. I was a fucking CHILD "back then when I came to visit my dad's office".
I gave him my most disgusted look and left without a word but I just can't get over it. That man creeped on me when I was a little girl and openly mentioned it like it was a great argument why I should go out with him now and the most natural thing in the world. They have literally no shame.
Holy shit he thought you were gonna be flattered. He picked you as a child! I hope his ego was anihilated when you didnt giggle and blush.
I'm not blaming you OP but this is why you can't be nice or friendly to men. It always makes them think that you must be into them. You have every right to be disgusted! Going forward, I'd advise you to avoid this man and never be alone with him.
Pedo alert... urgh 🤮
Unrelated, but there is 15 years between my sister and her husband. He says things like "in X year, I was finishing university" then turns to my sister and says "and you were what, in kindergarten that year?"
OP, I hope you are okay and as others have said, steer clear of this man (as your mother and sister should as well).
These stories churn my stomach.
GROSS.
I had a friend of my dead dad's approach me at a funeral for another relative, too. Right in front of God, my family, and everybody. I shut that shit down right away. Like, how do you sleep at night.
So men can get mad at us for ignoring them on the street, but not only are we not allowed to be mad, we are expected to smile and be nice when they hit on women who's 20 years younger than them? Make that make sense.
That is gross. I'm sorry to hear about your experience and hope you can move past it. Fortunately, you won't have to encounter this creep again.
I experienced a similar situation a few years ago, when I was in my early 30s. My dad's 50-something former coworker tried to make a move on me. I remember meeting him when I was 15.
They know what they're doing.
The audacity of old scrotes makes me want to hurl 🤮 I'm sorry this happened to you - what a disgusting pig.