A partner should be an addition to your life, and should not be used as a solution to a problem. To be in actual, healthy and HV relationship you need to already be "complete". True companionship thrives on genuine connection and shared values rather than serving as a mere antidote to solitude. If your partner is the only thing keeping you from being lonely and sad, it makes it way harder to leave him if he starts displaying red flags. Instead of looking for someone else to make you feel better, focus on taking care of yourself, making real friends, and doing things that make you happy. You should only get into a relationship if you can handle being single, because then it's only a matter of whether he makes your life better or not. If you're lonely and have no other connections, even a LVM can seem like a better choice than being single, which is a very dangerous mindset.
This doesn't only apply to loneliness, but also e.g financial struggles. If you're poor and get together with a rich man to escape it, you're setting yourself up to be dependent on him and therefore more tolerant to scrotery. I've seen time and time again how a lot of socially isolated women get dependent on male relationship and attention to curb their pain. I remember when I was a teen I was groomed constantly by scrotes online, because any companionship (even shit one) was better in my eyes than being completely alone. My point being, don't use a potential partner as a fix for anything.
Yup.
Don't date out of boredom. You'll end up wasting your time and settling for some loser so you don't feel like the entire exercise was a waste.
Get a hobby, stare at a wall, read a book, anything.
Well said!
When I first broke up with my ex, I was freaking lonely. Now, what I do is that I have checkbox. If I’m lonely, I’ll find things and venues to go to and do. I’ll even ask friends and family to join in. After doing all these activities, I ask myself again, how do I feel ? Am I still lonely? Yes, I’m still lonely? Okay, time to find more things to keep me busy. No, I’m not lonely, but I need to recharge? Okay, then I’m no longer lonely. I’ve been doing this for about 2 years, and I realized that I don’t really desire having a bf for the sake of not being lonely. I have realized that there are people in my life who would gladly spend time with me.
As ironic as it sounds take the advise of a scrote, Get yourself a cat.
Kittens are a joy to have, and not a single day is the same with them, I see them play and attack a mop that I use, Cleaner than men and they even keep nightmares at bay including depression while men are the culprit of depression, Women only events are still the same and there are owners with women only clubs, over there I'm happier because I don't have to guard my drink.
Being among women is not perfect, some are absolute trash and envious but the pro women are the best people to talk to. Women who are pro men, who need to bring their boyfriend along or love trans women are cut from my contact list like weed.
I rather have an anti male than an anti woman in my presence.
Truth! Being single and lonely is still better than being with someone that makes you feel miserable AND lonely.
How can I find HV friends when I am so busy with work though?
I didn't use to believe any of the things you were saying, during my pickme days. But now I feel like I need to print it out and put it in a frame. 🙂