My philtrum is extremely long. (It's 20 mm and it's a thing that's running on my father's family, so it isn't a medical condition) and my nose it's very bulbous and fat (another thing I got from my dad). These two characteristic are impossible to fix unless I wasted thousand and thousand of dollars on them, which I don't have, and the philtrum surgery is something most surgeons won't want to do (bimax). I could get a nosejob, but it wouldn't fix my nose, because I'd have to get multiple nosejobs in order to get a better one (one for the tip, another for the nostrils, etc.). I also have a double chin that isn't fat, but another genetical attribute from my dad (weak chin and jaw, which makes the skin of chin sag a bit).
This makes sense, because surgery only works when you have a huge flaw that can be fixed, like sticky ears (don't know how to say this in English), really recessed jaw, etc.). When most of your features are ok in a medical sense, you can apply surgery on them, but no one would notice (and you don't get surgery for your self-esteem, because that isn't maturing).
I also have pronounced folds in my cheeks despite my age, so that's something I must do something about (I can, I think). I look much older than my age.
I've been told that being anxious or sad make you age faster, which makes sense. I feel I'm in my prime (24-35, I guess) and I'm wasting my life and it's gonna go downhill from here.
I also hate when people think that how I look it's my blame because I look like a "mouth breather", but I've never actually mouth breathed, I just didn't get lucky.
Honestly, it makes me think if marrying ugly people and having kids with them should be seen as some sort of child "cruelty", even if you love your husband/spouse.
I just want to stop giving a shit about psychical appearance. I just didn't notice how other people looked until I got into femcel forums and that shit, and still, I'm pretty "lenient" with how most people look, I guess? If someone has a normal philtrum ratio, and an average jaw or chin, they look attractive to me, even if their nose isn't good for conventional standards. For me, 90% of people look attractive unless they're obese or really unclean.
For someone constantly complaining about being ugly and who genuinely believes it’s cruel for ugly ppl to reproduce why are you on a dating forum? Why not just wallow in a cave?🤨 Like??? Ugly ppl date all the time, your parents are ugly and they got married. It isn’t ugliness that stops ppl from forming deep connections and getting married: it’s personality.
Nothing we say here is gonna help you because you need medical help in the form of drugs and intense therapy. Get offline and go to a doctor.
Giving a shit about your looks is a choice. It's a mindset problem. I have a bunch of physical attributes seen as less attractive in my country and some that make finding clothes hell. I don't give a shit and just go on with my life.
Divert your attention and energy somewhere else. Do activities that highlight what your body can do or create something like sports, yoga, playing instruments, painting. Volunteer. Make a positive journal and write what you like about your day to get use to have a positive mindset. Connect with animals and people. Take a break from social media.
Spend your precious time doing things that give you fulfillment instead of bashing yourself over something you can't change.
Its highly unlikely that you're significantly worse looking than most other women.
FDS tries pretty hard to dissuade "femcel" content, but I know it can be hard to get over hangups.
I have really squinty eyes, and I OBSESSED over them all throughout high school and college.
Then I did modelling for a family friends professional clothing line because of my "cute face."
Nobody is perfect, and even if you were really hot, how different do you think your life would be?
You're a human, we are animals, facial features are ALL pretty cool and distinct.
Girl people will bully you about anything. So what? Even if you looked like the hunchback of Notre Dame, so what? Have you seen the woman who had acid thrown over her entire body, her looks and beauty destroyed, and she got married AFTER that happened to her? Do you know why? Because while both men and women might appear to obsess over “beauty” its all MADE UP. You make your own standard. I am by no means “conventionally” beautiful, but who cares? I think I’m the most perfect goddess in the universe, because it’s my choice to believe whatever I want. And guess what? Everything mirrors my belief. I do not experience men or women calling me anything less than gorgeous. I only receive complements and attention from everyone, because my ENERGY is what’s attractive. CONFIDENCE, SELF LOVE, SELF ASSERTION, now THATS SEXY. Level up your MIND and only then will you look in the mirror and see yourself for what you truly are, bulbous nose or not. People obsess over looks when they hate themselves. People who truly have self love would love themselves even if they lost the outward appearance, and you need to develop that level of self acceptance too. Good luck sister.
Play with make up to contour and shade areas you want to camoflage. There are millions of tutorials on YouTube you can check out.
If it's any consolation, most of our ancestors were hideously ugly, but they all managed to reproduce. Remember, having a mate isn't the be all and end all of life.
Go enjoy your hobbies, meet friends who care about you, and have fun. Your features won't seem so dramatic and you'll have people who care about the real you instead of faking it because you're hot.
I am sure you don't look nearly as bad or unusual as you think you do. We are our own harshest critics. Honestly it sounds like you need to get off the "looksmaxxing" and "femcel" content rabbithole, it will fuck with your head and make you miserable. Go outside, hang out with your friends, learn how to cook, read a book, listen to some music, go out dancing, take a class, get involved in politics - something!! Your looks are not the most important part about you. Go out there and live your life. And please get some therapy.
Carry yourself and act like you are the most beautiful woman in the world.
Ideas: What’s your body like? Some men are more focused on the kind of body they like rather than the face.
If you think you’re “lenient” on looks then I recommend the podcast episode where the ladies say, “if you’re ugly, like a 4, make those 1-3s work for it.”