It is validating to see these ideologies be critically evaluated.
A. When I believed in the “law of attraction”, I was very confused as to why I kept attracting narcs, users and malignant opportunists. I MUST be the problem to have attracted it! I MUST be the problem with my limiting beliefs! Even though I have attempted to behave with honesty and integrity, I believed that there must have been something off about my energy.🕵🏽♀️. 💡Just walk outside at night and observe a lamp. Tons of flies hover and are attracted to the light. ⚡️It’s not about what you attract it is about what you filter.⚡️
B. When I wore “rose colored glasses” and tried to see the good in everyone and give “the benefit of the doubt”🤢, I gaslit myself into overlooking red flags and terrible behavior. I internalized everything because I was being “negative” and having limiting beliefs for being skeptical that there is an abundance of good men in the world.
As a former yoga teacher, I want to warn all of you that this new age speak is largely repackaged victim blaming that upholds the status quo. It is far easier to tell women that there is something wrong with them to tell men to level up.
BUT do not argue or discuss this with people who are not ready to take off the rose colored glasses. I am way more mentally healthy now that I stopped internalizing these messages. Shockingly, now that I am “guarded” (aka have boundaries) and I accept that there is NOT an abundance of HV people in the world, I feel much better about my life.🤷🏽♀️
There's this really good YouTuber, James Jani who does a good job of calling out all the LoA propaganda and grift. I was starting to fall into this trap too until I found his videos. Good to know you're out of all this. I remember the whole hype era around LoA when I was in school. So many people were gaslighted and now I feel its coming back on tiktok. Needless to say all this is categorised as scam, business to profit off vulnerable and gullible people.
The Law of Attraction is TOTAL bullshit. Do murderers murder other murderers? Do rapists rape other rapists? Bad people are looking for VICTIMS, and the innocent, weak, and naive are the best victims. There's nothing wrong with trying to be positive, but projecting positive traits and intentions onto negative people, and then projecting their bad intentions and traits back onto yourself is LUDICROUS. Are the starving children around the world just not "vibrating on the UN rice level?" Did the children who are being raped right now as you read this comment "get out of the vortex" with their thinking and cause their rape? My ex best friend is one of these Cult of Positive Thinking morons who told me I was responsible for breaking my neck and jaw in a parachute jump in the Army. Apparently, my bad thoughts caused the Commanding General of Fort Bragg to not call off the jump because of the high winds that day. Apparently, I'm a witch who controls the weather and generals with my bad thoughts. 🤣 LOA is just demonic gaslighting at its finest.
I have never been more delusional than I was when I was very into the LOA. It promotes so much wishful thinking and no practical advice on how to handle difficult situations and emotions. I hated feeling like it was my fault for "creating" all of these negative situations jist because I had one negative thought or something.
It’s so true. It’s the biggest reason why appreciate FDS. I want strategies, not wishful thinking. Religion and new age spirituality etc are often used to placate people so they don’t seek power.
Agreed! Admittedly, I tried getting into LOA years ago and it almost felt like it was working. But I think it's super damaging to keep hearing that, oh, you definitely attracted all of those abusers, you attracted that assault, you attracted that cancer diagnosis, etc. And I think too much positivity thinking can be toxic after a while, too.
Instead of wishing and praying for something good to happen, I try to just sit down and write a list as to what I want, and then a smaller list of actions to undertake if I want said things to happen. Taking control of your life really helps with confidence and self-reliance, too.
The "laws of attraction" and "rose colored glasses" are just another form of toxic positivity and the resulting victim blaming.
"Bad stuff happens to you? Well, you probably didn't try to manifest good stuff hard enough so it's ultimately your own fault! Try harder next time!"
"It's your own fault that you are always depressed and sad! You aren't trying to see the good in everything - even the people who abuse you - hard enough!"
A. If it's not that, it's telling us to constantly be on alert and then blaming us for being so. I just can't deal with this shit.
B. This is absolutely a gendered idea.
This. We don’t attract our abusers, they straight up seek anyone they can walk all over and prey on.
Honestly spirituality seems like a whole other cult and when I was deep into it, people acted as archiac as the hardcore Catholics in my family lol