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I have seen way too many posts on here detailing pickme friends. Drop them! You are the sum of the five closest people to you. If you surround yourself with low value pickmeishas can you guess what that makes you?
Level up. Glow up. Dump the pickmes like you dump the scrotes. Seriously. Your mental health will improve tenfold when you take all that negativity and drama out of your life.
Amen! You can't level up with deadweight attached to you!
I almost made a post about this, but my MOST pickme friend story came full circle for me just this week... I just really have to let this out.
After college one of my best gfs at the time moved back home and immediately started dating a man who was in his late 30s. We were in our mid 20s at the time. This guy looked like hell on legs. Like he was decaying. He was very sick, autoimmune but also didn't bathe and dressed horrifically ... but she thought they were "soulmates." He had a gas station job and she is a master librarian (AHEM). Not to mention she was young and gorgeous... Immediately after getting with her, he quit that job and never worked again...
She paid for everything, obviously... including all of his insane medical bills. She came back to visit my home state many years into them dating and I met up with her. She got really drunk and cried, BAWLED, all night about how this scrote would not marry her. It was all she wanted from him, even though I'm pretty sure at the start he made it clear he will never be "marriage minded." The one time I met him in their city together, he was flirting with one of her best friends in a corner all night... I stopped talking to her at that point. I could not STAND watching this go down.
I'm not on social media, haven't updated it in years, but I caught on there a a few years ago that she bought a house and yes, you guessed it, scrote was moving into it with her. They planted a tree in the yard to "signify their love" and she was buying expensive art to decorate the place. You guessed it, he still had not married her at that point.
I got on social media again last week and I was wondering how that was going.. welp, scrote died. She's "widowed" but the kicker was he married her THREE DAYS BEFORE HE DIED. They'd been together for about 15 years. He was in his mid 50s, she was mid 30s at the time.
My sisters, I just can't believe this girl and the amount of money that must have gone to this guy on her part... the medical bills, the home, the funeral. What the actual fuck?
One of her last posts on there... she bought a dedicated park bench near her library and had a plaque on it dedicated to him. In the pic she is sitting on the bench holding one of this guy's hats and it is musty and filthy with shit all over it. The guy looked like he never bathed, wore top hats and jewelry... maybe you can envision the type. He was disgusting outside of being just sick, know what I mean??? I couldn't believe she was still paying money to this scrote even AFTER he passed away.... like she couldn't just get a grip her wallet even with everything being totally and completely over...
Her large friends group of course supported all of this. Everyone thought this guy was "so cool" and he was the "edgy" move to his own beat type... Which I think is neat if you are in high school I guess. He was immature as hell and dressed like a complete clown.
I think he didn't marry her because he wanted to prove to people he wasn't in it for the money, but an FDS sister knows better than that. Whether married or not, she still funded his entire life and gained the benefits of her very rich family upbringing (family vacations, etc.) and her hefty paycheck with her bad ass job. Not to mention he had total funding to upkeep his medical needs. I maybe would give benefit of the doubt (just kidding, I never would HAHA) if he hadn't quit his one little measly job soon after they got together... but it was too obvious to me to ever overlook. I hated the dude and I dropped her as a friend when I realized she wasn't willing to walk away over the marriage thing.
So now she was widowed by about 35 years old (but only technically a wife for a total of about 3 days before he croaked), and I'm going to guess in a pretty steep mountain of debt over his medical needs. Did they get married with him in a hospital bed/in hospice or what??? I just can't even imagine. Was she excited for that? If she was pissed 10 years earlier for him not marrying her, how did it make her feel that he only married her because he knew he was dying??? I cannot imagine that that felt "good" for her... what the entire fuck?
Anyway.... I'm so very disappointed in her for never putting herself first and I think her friends are total shit bags for ever supporting this. All I could ever see is: This girl clearly does not care about her own self. I'm so glad I jumped ship when I did... it is extremely taxing to watch people you care about make awful decisions for themselves over and over. When you care more about the pickme friend that you have more than she cares about her own self, sis it is time to GO.
My observation with pick mes is that many are willing to throw other women under the bush to please men. Either that or they use other women to meet men (e.g. asking for set ups).