Has positive affirmations without any actions worked for anyone? Why is it that all the positive affirmation people I happen to know are broke and lazy?
I find myself once again financially bailing my positive affirmation family members out of their poor financial and life decisions. I'm starting to feel really angry and resentful about it because I was about to make an investment that I was really interested in and excited about. I can't afford to keep doing this.
I admit I've never been one to do positive affirmations, vision boards etc. I just think of a goal that I want to achieve and I start working and taking the actions needed to achieve it. I don't think I'm a negative person. I always encourage people to take the actions needed to achieve their goals and dreams. We grew up poor, I worked to get a STEM scholarship. I worked odd jobs during university. I worked 16 hour Days during summer to be able to afford a cheap phone and second hand car. I've made calculated decisions about my life and took the necessary actions needed to pull myself out of poverty. I didn't sit around and use positive affirmations to get a scholarship. I put in the work needed to achieve what I wanted. Now I have a STEM education, good job and can afford a new car, apartment in a good area, etc.
Yesterday I blew up because I found myself once again bailing these positive affirmation NAZIs out of the shitty financial decisions they make. My mum tried to give me a list of positive affirmations to say to calm me down and I snapped that she's been saying them and sticking them all over the place since 2008 and has gone from being poor to negative value in debt. I know that sound harsh but I'm tired of absorbing the costs of their poor decisions. It's making me angry and resentful and this is not who I am .
I've tried my very best to help them better themselves financially. I've spent hours helping with resumes and LinkedIn, yet my dad and both brothers have rejected well paying job opportunities that I have found for them. They are happy to work in minimum wage jobs and let me pay the balance of what they can't afford. I've tried helping them use credit cards to maximize cash back opportunities and avoid debt, tried teaching them about savings and investments. Tried telling everyone to put $25 per paycheck (bi-weekly) into a jar for yearly family vacations/emergencies, so that I'm not once again paying for the whole thing. My mum and brothers are not university educated but I firmly believe people can be successful without a degree or education if they invest the right way and make the right financial decisions.
Most of my friends who do positive affirmations and vision boards are broke and in MLM schemes. My mother has been broke her whole life, she's now in debt and last week decided it's fine to quit her job because I'm here to absorb the costs. My father and brother reject all the high paying jobs I use my resources and contacts to get for them. My youngest brother isn't working right now but he's struggling with mental health so I'm fine with supporting him. I don't mind helping out when someone gets laid off, loses their job etc. But they make horrible financial decisions, keep buying stuff they don't need, getting into credit card debt unnecessarily and they don't want to better themselves. How can you better yourself by sticking pictures of money and positive affirmations all over the place and not doing anything to absorb it? Apparently this is trying to them.
Sorry for the rant. But according to my mum, I'm a negative killjoy because I pointed out that position affirmations without actions isn't even trying to better yourselves. This is not what I wanted my life to be like in my 20s. Has anyone had any similar experiences? I feel there can be something called toxic positivity in scenarios like this..... I'm not sure how to go about handling it.