Queens, I'm miffed.
My boys are very polite- they're kind to everyone, and I love that about them.
When they were just 5 years old a little boy with Tourettes' grandma approached me and asked if they'd be willing to sit next to him on the school bus as he was getting bullied. She said her grandson had said they were they only kids at school who were nice to him.
I thought this was so sweet! My boys were happy to oblige, and they've been friends with him going on 7 years now.
Recently something similar happened, but it hasn't gone quite as well. A mother approached me and said her autistic son had no friends, but had mentioned that he'd like to get to know my boys. I talked to my sons about it and they said they would try- but that he is quite rude and they don't really enjoy his company.
Today they invited him to play soccer with them and their group of friends. His mom stayed in the car the whole time, which I found a bit odd. The boy walked up and I said, "Hi, so and so. How's it going?"
"Can you just not talk?" He said.
Rude!
And Queens, I may be 40, but I am still a bit immature at times. This really got to me. I know it shouldn't have, but it did.
As they finished up, he overheard my boys talking about going to see a movie later on with their friend.
"Oh," the boy said, looking right at me. "Which movie theater and what time?"
"Now you want to talk to me, huh?" I said. Petty, I know.
"Which movie theater?" He now asked my son, who told him. The boy fired off some texts to his mom who was still in her car, and got a quick text back.
"She says we'll meet you there."
Ugh.
Queens, I don't want to deal with this kid. I fully believe my sons that he's just a douche. I don't think this is autism. I think this is scrotey entitled douchiness that his parents have slapped an autism label on so they can write it off as something that he can't help, rather than deal with it.
My kids said he was rough and rude during soccer. They don't even want him to join next time. I really wish I hadn't told his mom this was a weekly thing.
It starts young, Queens.
I'm off to go see a movie with a kid I can't stand. I'll bet mom will be dropping him off and staying in the parking lot again so I will have to be the one who deals with him.
Not looking forward to it.
Definitely tell your sons that they don't have to try to befriend him anymore. They (and you!) tried, and he repaid the effort with rudeness. He and his mother need to learn the hard way.