i remember reading a post on here about someone having a crush on a guy and he didn't make any effort. i've been doing this my whole life and i learned that men know what they want and even if they're "busy", if they wanted to they would. it wouldn't be low effort either if he really wanted you. i was very attracted to someone i met at a certain environment and i go there just as often as he does. i used to try to make conversation and in his face and honestly the fact that i was doing that shows that he didn't care to be bothered with me. i realized you should let people come to you but even when they do you have to vet them. now when i go to that place (very similar to a coffee shop), idrc to sit by him or even be friendly like that. looking back, i used to come off as desperate and i don't need to be seen that way.