I recently went back to grad school and became quite frustrated with the women that I‘d love to befriend - none of them pass my vetting.
I apply FDS principles to my female friendships as well, and my standards isn’t even that high. It is just how I treat my friends, such as following through plans, understanding etiquettes and social cues, being supportive, etc.
However, one is flaky and cancel plans last minute, one literally steals my idea and trades support with strings attached, one is not as enthusiastic with the friendship and kind of one-sided, one gossips a lot and lacks discretion.
Learning from past fall-out, I am now selective with who I let into my life, including female friends. But I am beyond frustrated to find one that meets my bare minimum.
Where do I find y’all? Does it have something to do with my male-dominated field of work? Where do I meet strong women who aren’t pickmes and generally decent? Should I befriend older women?
Sometimes I “let things slide” and get closer to one of them, only to be disappointed again and again :(