How to get older women to stop trying to insist I "find a good man to marry?"

you can't stop them. best thing you can do is avoid the subject and avoid themir presence as much as you can. another thing i think might help is to pretend you're listening and then saying "wow, that makes me want to be with a man even less. thank you so much for reinforcing my decision!" i think they'll eventually give up.

i would guess (probably correctly) that they have a loser scrote adult son at home they're trying to get rid of by pawning him off to some unsuspecting woman.

Im the youngest daughter in my family and my mom sometimes is desperate for her sons to get a gf and finally leave. She cleans after them, one of them is a repeat criminal so she ends up having to clear up his tracks of whatever he did. One of them is disabled and he can't keep himself clean so she has to constantly yell at him to wear deodorant.

Then there's me, the daughter witnessing only a fraction of the way men can ruin a womans life (my pickme mom). They tried sometimes making passive remarks about me settling down with whatever riff raff comes to their house to do a service since their sons are useless so they probably want to sell me off for two goats and a cow to a man that can maybe give them a useful son for once.

I'm just commenting because I am an older lady and I get tired of them too. My friends are younger than me and they have either settled as a pick me wife, or in a relationship hoping to settle into a Marrrrriage really soon, or engaged to a complete loser and think they are winning because they are finally engaged - to men who barely parented their adult children and expect women to cook and clean. I am the only one in my circle that is not on board. For them a man, any man, is golden.

Honestly, redirect them. Let them know that women are now de-centering men and are focusing on their own happiness and well-being. That will give them the slow blinks and make them speechless too.

There definitely are some older women who are stuck in the pick-me mindset like that, but in my experience, no one is more over men than older women. After all, they've experienced nearly an entire lifetime of putting up with men's shit. 😂

My paternal grandma was a happy widow who was all "I need another husband like I need a hole in the head" whenever anyone dared float the idea she should remarry. Everyone who ever met my grandpa have stories about how terrible he was, no nice stories. (I never met him, he died before I was born. It's probably for the best. 🤣)

I get all of my best "don't put up with scrote nonsense" energy from the older women in my life!

A HVW's business is nobody's business!

Change the subject to something actually interesting. There is much more to talk about in life than a woman's personal choices... make them level up and don't let anyone put you on the spot like this. Nobody needs an explanation or even an answer to this low level bs. Steer them out of it.

Or you can try:

"I don't discuss this stuff with people" "Not going into that today, thank you (smile)."

"No regrets, ever, for my choices."

"I won't be answering that today, thanks."

"I won't be discussing my personal choices, thanks."

"No thanks, I don't talk about these sorts of things."

If you let them get you down the rabbit hole with this stuff, it is a great way to let people waste your precious minutes and adds up. Don't allow it.