I know I'm preaching to the choir here, but I never understood why pretty girls degrade themselves by dating/marrying/reproducing with guys who have about as much sex appeal as a wet gym sock. Unless the guy is like REALLY good in bed, and what he lacks in appearance, he actively tries to make up for by successfully making you climax via foreplay and oral every time ya'll do the nasty. At least in that case you're getting SOMETHING out of the looks mismatch.
But if hes not ... Do you think you're being some kind of a good person by "giving him a chance"? You're not. No one who sees you together thinks you're some kind of Mother Theresa for settling. A lack of self-respect is not typically something most people consider worthy of admiration.
You're just screwing up humanity's course for evolution by passing on your boyfriend's ugly genes, and if you have a male child, your son is gonna grow up to be an incel who hates you for not choosing a better sperm donor, and saddling him with his father's appearance. If you have an ugly daughter, best believe all of society will treat her like shit for not looking like an instagram model, and in a world where womens' societal worth is heavily contingent on their appearance, she'll grow up painfully aware of how much she lacks in the looks department and have chronically low self esteem that makes her an easy target for LVM to abuse and exploit. Either way, there's nothing morally virtuous about bringing an ugly child into a world that hates ugly people. I'm sorry, but that's the truth.
You're not doing your boyfriend any favors either, because in the words of Billie Eilish, "you give an ugly guy a chance. He thinks he rules the world. And its like... you're still ugly though!"
Or maybe you're thinking that your inbred methhead-looking beau will be more likely to value/cherish you because he knows you could easily score someone more attractive, and it's a testament to your love that you gave up that opportunity for his sake. A sweet sentiment, but ultimately one that has little basis in reality. As a general rule of thumb, men don't like feeling like charity cases. Even if you manage to overlook the fact that you're settling for your boyfriend, his ego will NOT permit him to do the same. Hes not going to feel lucky for having you. Hes going to feel pitied. And he is not only more likely to resent your pity than appreciate it, but it will motivate him to punish/ humiliate you. Either by cheating or by attempting to chip away at your self-esteem via negging in an attempt to bring you down to his level.
Or he'll just take it one step further by projecting all of his self-hatred onto you and become straight up abusive. If he doesn't respect himself enough to put any effort into working on his appearance, he's not going to respect you for putting up with him in spite of it. In fact, he'll probably justify his cruelty on the grounds that you deserve it for willingly wasting your time on him when you could easily do better. After all, its not like you didn't know what you were signing up for when you settled, right?
My man is hideous and dresses like an idiot but he cooked me rice once, 10/10. Lol.
Just imagine:
If we would just stop procreating with ugly men, dumb men and men with inheritable diseases or disabilites, the whole thing would be over within a single generation. We could literally make all of humanity better for our children by stopping to give sub-par men access to our reproductive powers for one single generation.
That's natural selection. It's how nature intended it to be. Sub-par males (doesn't matter if they are dumb, ugly or sick) don't get to procreate. That's how species survive. The patriarchy destroyed that by first spreading the myth that every male has the right to procreate. Then modern times made it possible for weak, dumb and sick males to grow old enough to procreate instead of dieing young like they used to.
Humanity, especially the male half of it, is getting worse and worse because of that.
I used to date ugly men, believing the'd treat me better because they'd be so grateful to be with me. And at first, they are. But now I realize they just take it as an ego boost. Instead of being like, "WOW, I have this beautiful girl, I am so lucky!" They really think, "WOW, I can't believe I got this beautiful girl. I bet I can pull an even hotter girl than her next!"
Hot guys are the nicest!
For one, women actually desire them. They know what it looks like when women desire them. Therefore you can have a mundane human interaction with him without him getting angry and butthurt that a Post-wall roastie is trying to fuck him.
Two, they actually get to reject women. It's not a toxic Andrew Tate fantasy for them, where they're like "Sorry toots but you're fat and ugly I only f*ck Stacies", like with ugly men. It's a reality for them, they know it's not cool or fun, so they aren't turning every interaction with you into a chance to reject you so they can be cool and masculine like the Top G.
Three, they'll acknowledge your existence. They aren't terrified that you'll turn the conversation to sex or romance if they do so, because again, they actually know what it looks like when women want sex and romance. This means that he will wave to you, tell you good morning, ask about your weekend, tell you about his day, tell you goodnight ect. He knows what the hints are and that you're not dropping them by asking him if he saw the Basketball game last night.
One anecdotal story I have is when I made snacks for everyone at work. The ugly fat guys and virgin meme looking dudes were terrified to tell me my food was good. They ate it but they didn't give me any compliments because of course I'll take my clothes off and throw myself onto them because I'm clearly so desperate for their d*cks. The 11/10 gorgeous Chad co-worker however went on and on non stop about how good they were and asked if I would make more stuff, almost as if I made cookies to be nice, and not to seduce him.
So yea. Stay away from bitter ugly men. Aim as hot as you can
lol ugly men are the most unfaithful and shitty of them all. I made the mistake of thinking ugly men would be grateful but they never are 😂 it takes fucking n o t h i n g for another woman to pull their attention because they haven’t had much of it for their entire lives. The ones who actually get women seem happier with their choice because they’ve already had the chance to play the field. They also aren’t so insecure that they start being controlling and abusive because they’re worried they’ll never get anything else. lol just no. Not that hot men can't be low value scrotes (as we're all aware), I'm just saying dating down is sort of a myth.
I don't know which is worse—dating an ugly man who knows he is ugly or dating an ugly man who has NO IDEA he is ugly.
Yes, a man who knows he is ugly will do what you described in your post (resent you, project self-hatred, etc.). That's bad enough.
But I once made the hideous mistake of dating an ugly (and obese) man who did not know he was ugly, and I think that may be worse than dating an ugly man who knows he's ugly.
An ugly man who knows he's ugly has, at the very least, self-awareness. He understands his place in the human hierarchy. Sure, he resents it, but he knows his limitations.
On the other hand, an ugly man who does not consider himself ugly is a man who does not understand his place in the world. He is like a 3-year-old child who does not understand why he's not allowed to have a "gwown-up job". His unquestioned entitlement turns him from an ugly man into a monster. He will have no appreciation of the "step down" you took to date him, of the burden you took on by being with him.
An ugly man who knows he is ugly will not appreciate that you "stepped down", but he is keenly aware that he is dating up. An ugly man who has no idea he is ugly does not even know you took a step down.
Just avoid ugly men.
ROFL 🤣 WOW
Not the 2 in 1😭😭. But anyways I like how in Daria the fashions clubs rule was don’t date a guy uglier than you
I can't even laugh at her anymore, this is just sad 😐
Honestly, this post is stupid, IMO. So you're saying that only hot women are worth of good self-esteem? That's pretty anti-feminist and illogical, as if we'd only procreate with attractive guys, we'd have to weed-out unattractive women (since they could give birth to ugly children). Also, genetics don't work that way. Two attractive partners can have an ugly kid. This reads as a really mean post, written by a privileged person. I guess? Also, if we follow your logic, we must weed-out low-IQ people, since high-IQ people contribute more to societal advances. Same could be said about short people, mentally-ill people, etc. Actually, I also find odd when an attractive woman goes for an ugly man, but have you asked them about how they feel? IDK, maybe they genuinely don't feel they're settling? To be honest, I'm fairly unattractive, but my mother is attractive and my dad's ugly. My mother didn't settle and she was attracted to my dad. What you want won't ever happen unless we force society to behave that way, and women aren't a hive mind. I hate how society bully people for things they cannot change. That's the same as punishing a kid for having autism. Just plain vile.
PD: sorry if I sound rant-ish, but this topic really makes me feel like crap.