My neighbours boyfriend of 3 years has told her recently, and several times before that, that he doesn't want to move in with her (thank god, good for her). He wants to continue living with his mom. She's devastated and has given him an ultimatum. Apparently he was on the verge of tears when she told him and she believes that he'll come around and finally move in with her and they'll be so happy together. He obviously only needs more pressure from her to finally come out of his shell. /s
Of course I was naive and told her that most men cry when they get exposed like that, and of course she immediately backfired that my taste in men must've been really awful if i experienced that because hE's DifFeReNt.
I collected myself and told her that I didn't mean to attack her so much that she had the impulse to attack me back like that and offered that we don't speak about it anymore to protect our friendship from that.
I'm equally proud of myself for my calm reaction as I'm sad for her.
She's been crying about it to his mother and her own mother as well for several days now and has been sending him "I'm so heartbroken"- messages every day. It's just so sad because I see my old self in her actions and I'm cringing so hard. She's a bit younger than me and he's the only thing she's been talking about. She's looking for validation that he still loves her everywhere.
I feel so sad for my old self and for all the time I've wasted on scrotes like that.
Why is it that so many of us struggle with our self worth so much that we endure this kind of treatment but yet still stay for breadcrumbs?
It's depressing.
Thank you for listening.
Writing it down helped a lot!
Gosh this is the hardest isn't it? When you see your pre-FDS self in other women and you really want to help but they're Pickmes who haven't discovered FDS yet 😔
I wonder if there's a way to slowly expose elements of FDS to her without triggering her?
I'm impressed by your reaction too.
She's crazy to be begging a male who lives off his mother to come live off of her. Jesus. What a nut job. Why's she even with a guy who lives off his mommy?
That's super sad. Lessons are easier to learn after the fact and reinforced when you see it play out for someone else. Now I just need to find someone with the same set of circumstances I went through 🙈