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I’ve been on a true crime binge since last year. I’ve always found the psychology and motivations behind why people commit crimes fascinating—really, I’m just intrigued by what drives human behavior in general. But until recently, I only paid attention to the high-profile cases. Now that I’ve read and listened to a huge number of stories, two major takeaways have really stuck with me:
Men are depraved. Yes, we already know this—especially around here—but the sheer level of depravity is astonishing. What’s even more disturbing is how often society just looks the other way or even makes excuses for them.
Pickmes will get you raped or killed. The number of cases where pickme behavior (regardless of how much upbringing plays into it) directly leads to the harm or death of their children, friends, colleagues, etc.? Absolutely insane. This has reminded me once again to press back against the bullshit other women spout that try to make us seem like we're too careful, too mean, too closed off, etc.
Please share lessons you may have learnt or taken away from any cases you've read or heard about, and note that this isn't about 'victim bashing'.
There's a woman in my family who was shunned a few decades ago. I'm fuzzy on all the details, as I was a small child when it happened. But she wanted to live with a man who was an immigrant, wanted to give him citizenship. For some reason she couldn't marry him herself so she convinced her young daughter to marry him. I believe the daughter was in her late teens and still living with the mother. The daughter married him reluctantly. Soon after he moved in with them, he killed the daughter.
She did reach out to me on Ancestry several years back, but I knew who she was by reputation. I told her I wasn't comfortable forming a relationship with her. She said she understood and dropped it. So yeah. Being the ultimate pickme got her daughter killed and everyone who knows her story doesn't trust her. Rightly so.
This is an excellent (and terryfing) study: Perpetrator characteristics and firearm use in pediatric homicides: Supplementary Homicide Reports - United States, 1976 to 2020
This is a figure that summarizes the results: https://injepijournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40621-024-00518-0/figures/1
It clearly shows that the most likely person to murder a child under 12 is a male adult family member. The most likely person to murder an adolescent (13 to 17 years old) is a male adult acquaintance. The most likely person to kill your child is a family member or acquaintance, not the big bad stranger outside. So ruthlessly vet the men in your life and don't trust the word of other women over your own gut.
All those killers and all those victims had women in their lives. Wives, mothers, sisters, partners, female friends... How many of them ignored the warning signs and how many of them protected and defended the killers because "My Bob would never do something like that!"?
Listening to pickme advise too, I listened to Steve Harvey about giving an ugly man a chance, I did so and and I tell you right now that Ugly men are ugly from the inside out too. Then I saw a video of a pickme saying that she dated out of her type and he proposed, I try not to be rude on other ppls channel but I really wanted to rip that woman a new A hole for even posting that crap.
Never ever feel guilty waiting for a man at the finish line. Men would never date out of their interest or type unless you are a place holder. Don't ever settle for crap that you need to give other men a chance. At times you only kiss one frog turning into a prince but that is just as rare as winning the lottery, in most cases, you kiss a frog and it stays a frog.
In some cases (also found in true crime), pickmes will actually kill you without anybody else’s assistance/involvement.
It’s never safe to date a scrote. Even if he is “harmless”, he might have a jealous pickme ex who is not harmless.