And he is no longer allowed in the bar he previously frequented! I love going out with my friends on weekends but lived in a constant state of anxiety that I would run into him, and occasionally did. We had a lot of mutual friends and he worked hard to create the image that he was such a great guy who would never hurt anyone. It was really alienating to suffer in silence knowing that if I told anyone, I ran the risk of them not believing me, labeling me as dramatic, hearing a different story from him, and cutting me off. My friend is a bartender, and not only believed me, but has banned him from the establishment, and I think this is the first step in me finally telling the rest of my friends the truth and shutting him out of my life for good, without the cloud of anxiety about him following me around.
I initially found FDS through my ex, who showed me the subreddit to make fun of it. I quietly began reading every day and finally was able to work up the courage to leave him for good and work on leveling myself up, so I’m eternally grateful to FDS.