I did it. I finally finally left a low value boyfriend who had spoiled me in a way no other man has done for me. I know, I’ve been with the bottom of the barrel. Never again, will I lower my standards into hell.
He treated me to nice restaurants, high end places and gifts, paid for my transportation, constantly picked me up from work, bought my groceries and took me on trips in extravagant places and hotels. I let it all veil all of the glaring red flags. I wasn’t used to any kind of security not even physical security. what he sure as hell couldn’t provide was emotional security.
The money he spent on me couldn’t make up for all the emotional cheating: jerking off to other women, triangulating me with his ex, having a previous porn addiction.
It didn’t make up for him ghosting me, yelling at me or gaslighting me towards the end of our relationship anytime I brought an issue up.
I got with him before FDS and after discovering it and religiously following this community, I finally gained boundaries, self respect and self love. I finally realized a man providing for you is the bare minimum. Just because he seems the best you’ve ever had, doesn’t mean you should settle. There IS BETTER out there for you.
I saw how increasingly mentally unstable he’s gotten to the point where he accused me of being apart of QAnon bc FDS somehow correlates to that?? Lmao. Called my parents pieces of shits, screamed and started hitting himself. He admitted he never got over his ex, saw my discomfort and continued to go on and on about her. Then kept refusing to leave my home until I yelled at him repeatedly to leave.
this man claimed he wanted to marry me and jfc, I’m so glad I‘m free from him because I dodged a bullet.
I felt so so unsafe last night and if I had FDS earlier in my life to unfuck me from patriarchal brainwashing, I wouldn’t have to deal with him and now have to deal with moving to another state on a whim.
when his mask slips, never doubt your judgement! Never doubt your intuition! It’ll save your life. If I’d stayed with this man and gave in to his manipulative sweet talk and begging he kept trying to pull too, my life would’ve been ruined and miserable.
leaving can be painful when you‘ve had an emotional bond, but the relief after will be tenfold.